Boyfriend is depressed and broke up with me

tiggerlady · ‎22-10-2015

Hi Everyone

So I have been seeing this guy for a few months and he came down with depression and I was being really supportive, trying to give him time but I think I was too pushy and he ended up calling it off as he didn't have the energy to deal with me or 'us'. But before he came down with the depression we were really good and we are really good for each other. We both know that and he has acknowledged that the him feeling off that last month is why we were fighting.

Is there anything I can do, its been a couple of weeks and I really want him back even if its going to take him a while until he is over this.

He hurt his back and was off work for a bit and has just gone back so I am hoping things would get better, but he also got made redundant a few months back and is working in a job he doesn't like that he is overqualified for.

Any help would be really appreciated

I just don't want to message him if it is going to annoy him but I am desperate to hear how he is going.

Thankyou

Michael202 · ‎23-10-2015

@tiggerlady

If you do want him back then you should most definitely get in contact with him, if you do just make sure it is clear you do not wish to pick a fight. There is nothing worse then feeling alone when you are in dark place, which is what he may or may not be feeling at the moment. You can never really be sure what is going on, whether things are better, or worse for him, so its probably best that you talk to him soon, I'm sure he would be glad to hear from you.

Hope I helped, good luck 🙂

JessF · ‎23-10-2015

Hello tiggerlady, people don't "come down" with depression. It's not something that you pick up like a cold, it's a serious mental illness and it is likely he has been dealing with it for some years; which means that he was dealing with it at the time he decided to start seeing you.

Now he has decided that the relationship is not working out and he has ended it. If you are already fighting after only a few months together, then it's probably a sign that you are not a good fit. I would respect his wishes and leave him alone.

It's common to see people blaming depression for their relationships ending when a lot of the time it's just a relationship ending.