Hi Ash77, we are sorry to hear that you feel so alone in this experience. As you said there are a large number of couples who have had to live through the disappointment and grief of not being able to have children and it is important that you have a space that you feel you can talk openly about how you feel. Perhaps your thread here will encourage others who are in the same situation to begin to talk too. Members of this site understand that we all have had different experiences with illness, family, stress, trauma, grief and so many more issues; I think you will find that we are a pretty supportive group open to talk about so many things.
Ash77 in terms of how you are feeling we wondered what kind of support you have had. IVF can certainly take it toll emotionally and physically and we hope that along this journey you and your partner have had support from family and friends. Perhaps though if you feel like things are not improving then it might be worth seeing a health professional to talk things through? Often at times like these it can be good to spend some time looking at how you are feeling and what you can do to learn to live with this situation. We know that this may take some time but it will be important through this process to look after yourself physically, emotionally and in terms of your relationship with your partner. It might be having a health professional to talk to, developing an exercise program or similar to deal with stress or any intense feelings, and perhaps some special activities with your partner that are stress free and focus on just enjoying being with each other.
Ash77 we would encourage you to keep talking with us and see how things go. Being open about how you are feeling and why will not offend anyone here and those who want to offer their support or share their stories will. And if you ever feel you need to consider other options for support then perhaps call out Support Service, 1300 22 4636.
Take care Ash77.
