My introduction to the forums and what I suffer with on a daily basis.

[Kaidalen]

Hello, My name is Daniel, I am 26 years old, Living in Queensland. I have been battling with depression for over 6 years, but last year it turned for the worst. I have seen a Psychiartrist who has me under 'Chronic Depressive Disorder" "Chronic Rejection Disorder" "Anxiety" and "Stress". I battle with this on a daily basis. And for the past couple of weeks. Its been rough.

All my life I have been bullied (because of my weight) and been rejected by teachers and so called "friends" I've always been the "grey kid" I am very much an introvert. I would rather stay inside than outside. I would rather watch a movie or play video games than go outside, because I feel that everyone is juddging me even though they aren't but in my head and heart it feels like I am constantly being judged by strangers.

This isn't much of an introduction (lol) But I might as well just talk about what myself, and to me, thats what an introduction is all about. Anyway.

Like I said, I am 26 years old, I am currently a carer for my mother whom is 66 years old and cant do much on her own, thats where I come in, as a son and carer, I love my mother to bits. But its come to my attention that I want more in life, and my mother wants me to move on. All my life I have been rejected, by females, because of my weight, by employers because my resume is empty, even though I have Certificates, but no actual work experience.

I find my life crumbling before my eyes. My time being very limited in actually finding a stable job, that will allow me to purchase my own home. And live in peace and tranquility. But that reality is only a dream. And I don't see it ever happening.

I hope this page and forum can help a guy like me out. I am complicated. I have zero friends, literally, no girlfriend because my weight apparently is a big factor in girls these days in dating men.

I just want to make myself proud and most important my mother proud. And at the moment I am more than a failure. and I feel it every day, every hour, minute and second.

Sorry if this wasn't much of an introduction, but talking about myself and what I suffer (to me) is an introduction. Thank you for taking the time in reading this and I hope I get the help I need and make some friends in the process.

Kind Regards,

Daniel S

[White_Rose]

Dear Daniel

Hello and welcome to Beyond Blue. Nice to meet you and read your story.

Do you get on well with your psychiatrist? This is essential if you are to move forward. Do you meet often? This may seem like an intrusive question. Do you talk with the psych about losing weight? I think this would be a rewarding discussion under the circumstances. Do you know why you are overweight? Is it because you are a comfort eater for example. I know that applies to me.

What sort of work would you like to do? What ambitions do you have? I wonder if you could take on a volunteer role and gain some valuable experience that way. Just because you are not getting paid to work doesn't mean your job is less valuable. This may also give you more motivation to lose weight.

Keep writing in.

Mary

[Flossie_Boo]

Hello Daniel,

I am new to the forums and your introduction resonated with me. Dealing with anxiety and depression on a day-to-day basis is so difficult, but as you have recently been diagnosed with multiple "disorders" you are probably feeling quite overwhelmed and not sure which/what aspect to work on first! We are our own worst enemies, once my brain thinks one negative thought it goes into overdrive: I'm too fat; I'm not clever enough to study or get a promotion, and so it goes on. This can create more stress and anxiety. Start small. Please don't try to take too much on board at once. Please look after yourself and take time out to do some things you enjoy. You sound like such a caring person and son. Your mother must be so proud of you.

Take care. Flossie Boo

[CMF]

Hi Daniel,

First of all I'm giving you a big high five if that's ok. I can tell already what a great person you are, taking care of your mum and dealing with your own things. I'm sorry things have been so rough for you. I think the responses above cover what i too would suggest but i wanted to add that i really agree with White Rose's suggestion of volunteer work to get you started. Not only will you gain experience but it will show our willingness to get out there and give something a try.

You mentioned you have certificates, what are they in? Do you enjoy study?

Do you have siblings or family who could help with caring for your Mum?

You will make many friends here. We are all friends, the BB family are the most beautiful people in every way and we are so happy for you to join us.

[CMF]

I forgot to ask, do you have any hobbies or interests? you could join a hobby club, where you will meet people with the same interests. This could be a great way to start making friends as you have things in common.

BS