Just lick to say hi

[S600_coupe]

hello everyone

Ive been Married for over 25 years now,my sexual performance was great then.for the last 10 years now its getting worst.I cant get erect

my body feels all tence up an cant relax . Ive tried ED treatment ,my colestrol under control,blood pressure good.it probly don't help being a shift worker .ive never smoked or takin drugs I'm so lost what to do now.

[white knight]

Hi s600, welcome

I used to do security and pi work, shifts, it did have a huge effect on my sex life.

Then I took a certain meditation that stopped function altogether. A doctor prescribed the common tablet and problem fixed. Just need to plan it a bit as it takes at least 30 minutes to work.

Once I stopped shift work and that med things returned to normal.

It will change things for the better.

Tony WK

[MarkJT]

Hey S600, how are the exercise levels? Diet? Concentration? Ego? (not talking being highly egotisitcal but everyone has an ego, be that big or small

There are a whole lot of reasons why this happens. For example, a mate of mine who was absolute elite fitness found that he trained so hard for ironman events, that it has a massive effect on him. One would have thought that this couldn't occur but it did.

The example above is a rare one but as said, so many things can influence. The better your diet, less alcohol, less caffeine and a decent level of exercise may assist. Remember that our bodies are finely tuned machines and if you put crap fuel into a car, it coughs and splutters, our bodies are no different.

Once things are progressing with your partner, do you start to think about no being able to get erect? If this is the case, try some diversion tactics. Put on some of your fave music and concentrate on the music to distract your mind.

What you are experiencing happens to many many men so you are not alone in this and don't think you are a failure, certainly not the case.

Mark.

[Just Sara]

Sorry for intruding coupe;

As a woman I mean. Just wanted to add, that some anti depressants and cancer drugs affect male libido. Your GP might know, or some research into side effects of medication might help. Uni's are more reliable than non educational/medical institutions.

I have views from a woman's perspective if you'd allow me to go into it, but I'll wait for your feedback first. A previous partner of mine and I dealt with this for yrs.

Wishing you well;

Sara

[S600_coupe]

Thank you sara im a long time

trucky doing local loading its

very busy i may not stop work

for 9 hrs .i also have alot of stress at work.new people trying to put me out of this job

ive been there 10 yrs now thank you

[S600_coupe]

Thank you tony

ive been a very active local trucky for 37 yrs.i load an unlid myself doing 9 hrs streight

i wont have a brake till the end of my shift.then going home i cant relax i have drivers pushing me out after my long comitment to this company.

[S600_coupe]

Hi mark

excercise level good i load an unload 3 semis a night by myself

concentration shot im always thinking about my next shift.

[Just Sara]

Hey again Coupe;

Thanks for your nice reply. Just a brief post today; I'm busy and can't stay.

Sexuality begins in the brain. If your mind's exhausted it expresses itself in the body. I know there's blokes giving you grief at the moment, but could you find a way to have a break with wifey at a secluded getaway?

Maybe Tony's idea about using the 'little blue pill' could help too.

Sending kind thoughts your way;

Sez

[Just Sara]

PS...

Have you spoken with your wife about her perspective yet?

[MarkJT]

S600, as well as what Sara has written above, I would well recommend starting to practice some mindfulness. If you are already thinking of the next shift and your concentration is blown, this may well help you relax.

Mindfulness is a type of meditation that you can do anytime or anyplace. I do it just about every day and has been really helpful for me to lower anxiety, prevent anxiety attacks and ground myself when depression really hits a level.

If you could download the "Smiling Mind" app - it is free and guided, as in it teaches you how to do it.

Mindfulness helps you live in the moment and not worry about the future nor the past.

This may help you sexually as well as you will hopefully be able to be in the moment instead of having a thousand thoughts in the head.

Mark.