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Hi! This is my first ever post

Saturn_94
Community Member

As mentioned in the title, this is my first ever post, and I’m a bit lost on this forum, to be honest. I haven’t used many forums before, and aren’t entirely sure how they work, but I’m just looking for some assurance as to if I’m in the right place?

This is sort of my first ever reach out for support, I’ve never been diagnosed with anything, and I’m not sure how good my advice is. I just decided that I wanted some assurance, or orientation even on my feelings, how common are the issues I’m dealing with? Do I need more professional help or do I just need to talk to someone for a bit?

I’ve never really talked to anyone and it thought this could be a starting point, so my question is: is this the right place to begin to look for support and advice?

(Also, sorry if my post is in the wrong spot or anything I’m horribly new to this. And thanks for reading, I guess.)

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Mark Z.
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi Saturn,

Your father must be very proud of having a daughter like you.

I can tell that he has huge challenge and use alcohol as self-medication. Obviously it's a wrong way, he's aware of it, but it's super hard to pull out. You need to understand that with on-going professional support he should have bigger chance to walk out, but it will take a long time, and this process is NOT linear, but tortuous. It is absolutely normal and natural. Most of the recover process is not linear.

Your dad needs you, he is fragile, if you walk away he may collapse. But I understand that you feel really exhausted sometimes, which means that you also need support. I suggest you seek professional support, as well as support from your family, and pass this energy to your dad, to accompany him and encourage him. If you need to take a breath, take a breath but don't give up. There's always hope.

Moreover, do you understand the root cause of your dad's sadness? If you'll spend more valuable time with him, there might be bigger chance to understand his voice. Alcohol is just a cover.

Hope everything will get better and better gradually.

Warmly,

Mark