Anxiety after abusive relationship breakdown.

[Strugglingmumof3]

I’ve been left with anxiety and depression after leaving an abusive relationship a few years ago, how do I stop this from affecting my current relationship?

[Emmen]

Hello Strugglinemumof3,

I'm very sorry to hear of your circumstances. No one deserves to be abused in a relationship and I'm glad you've gotten free from that. From your username, I gather you're also responsible for three children. It must be really tiring, especially with anxiety and depression. I'm glad you opened up to us and hope we can offer you some comfort.

Your current relationship starts on a clean slate and deserves a chance to succeed. That said, it's easier said than done since past experiences can haunt us through to our current circumstances. As a first step, may I know if you been seeing a counsellor or a psychologist? It could be immensely helpful in coming to terms with everything that has happened.

Hoping to hear from you.

Warmly,
M

[monkey_magic]

Hi Strugglingmumof3,

Welcome to BB.

Are you currently undergoing and therapeutic treatment for your anxiety/ depression?

Different methods work for different people. The best methods for me were talking about things and swimming consistently at the pools. I really needed to indulge in something just for me to make myself feel better.

The past can affect the future if it hasn't been dealt with. Dealing with it can be cathartic and satisfying especially when u grow from it.

Well done for leaving the abusive relationship. It takes a lot of strength to do so.

[Strugglingmumof3]

I haven’t seen anyone professionally. It actually took me a long time fo realise I was being abused because it was more emotionally, it wasn’t until he started threatening lives that I realise how serious things had become.
I got court orders and tried to put everything behind me and we were doing great. I’d never been happier, I then found my amazing new partner and that’s when slowly anxiety started to pop up and then things got made worse by the COVID situation and my parents running into my ex partner close to where we live. I was unaware he was still in the area.

[Emmen]

Hi Strugglingmumof3,

It is an unpleasant jolt back to the past. Right when you thought he was out of your life, there is is, still in your neighbourhood. I completely understand the anxieties and fears that come about when that kind of a situation and want you to have the opportunity to move forward with a new relationship.

Would you be open to seeing a mental health professional? You can start by visiting a GP for your anxiety and depression. This page may give you more information on what to expect: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/the-facts/supporting-someone/supporting-someone-to-see-a-health-profes...l

Warmly,
M