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My wife is slowly dying
My wife of 30+ years is a long-term transplant recipient, even though the transplant has been a success and has given her many extra years of life there have been many steps down in her health every couple of years, now in her 50's the antirejection meds have taken their toll and she now struggles to stay awake for a full day or stay asleep for a full night and has no energy to do much at all, the steroids she's on are making her skin so thin it breaks with minor bumps, she has almost died twice in the last couple years due to some health complications so after the family has dealt with this they now tend to stay away which of course adds to her depression and my stress.
At the moment not sure what I'm asking here but maybe there's some good advice out there.
A difficult post to answer but I'll try.
Life involves challenges and some of those challenges are beyond what we generally can cope with. My lovely wife and I went through similar just 2 years ago with her mum, Parkinsons, aged care etc. Some family stayed away also.
So what is the answer? Well a former boss of mine summed it up- "we fall down and every time we have to get up, dust ourselves off and do it all again tomorrow because as long as there is a breath to be taken, we have hope". Yes, easier said than done and I'd never diminish the seriousness of your struggles but I'd take the view that if people wanted not to visit, that's their choice, she has you and that's all that matters and what a great Husband you be.
There is a few threads you can read. You only need to read the first post of each. I hope you like them and get value out of it.
30 minutes can change your life - Beyond Blue Forums - 154525
Humility and "the good samaritan" - Beyond Blue Forums - 307504
TOGETHER AS ONE
They not share the moments you do
She has you though and friends a few
And the pain we relieve and understand
A cuppa, a chat and your guiding hand
There's something special in your care for her
Your mind will wander to how things were
But your humility and heart binds you as one
Every dawn has a setting sun
So squeeze her hand a little more
your love will travel to her core
Enjoy the pleasure of a rising sun
both together and joined as one...