Helping a parent that won't get help

[gloria10]

Hi,

I have been concerned about my mum recently. I've noticed her mood changing over the last few months and at first, I thought she was just whinging. Now I see that she is in a bit of a slump and it's getting worse. I understand she lost dad within the last few years, it has been a tough time for her, but it concerns me that even though my siblings and I suggest she gets the help she is reluctant to and keeps going into negatives again.

Being her daughter I feel that she doesn't listen to my advice, even though I've had similar issues before. I'm not sure how to deal with it or help her, but I also need to manage my own mental health. I make sure I rest up when I need to and continue to exercise as I feel better from it.

How can we help her? Any advice would be appreciated, thank you.

[geoff]

Hello Gloria, my reply is waiting for moderation as I used a common saying but it has a word the computer has picked up.

Thanks.

Geoff.

[gloria10]

It's been a few months since I wrote about mum, I thought things were getting better. Mum was often there when I was younger and has always been a support, but I thought as I've started to get stronger and I'm taking better care of my overall wellbeing that it might help our relationship.

It has been the opposite. When I started a new job recently she started to push me away and said I didn't need to call her. I have definitely reduced my calls with her, but I can't help but feel she just doesn't want to hear from me much at all.

It has definitely triggered some anxiety as I can't help but worry about her health, plus it is new for me trying to go on more as if she isn't there and I think that's what bothers me. The other thing is that she can make time for my siblings and friends of hers and I just feel pushed aside, even though I was there for her over the last few years.

Has anyone else lost contact with their parents? Did you find it helped?