Dear Andrea
Almost a year ago I moved from the city to a regional town where I didn’t know anyone. Like you I have struggled with feelings of isolation. I just wanted to send you support that while things can feel hopeless for some time, they can gradually get better.
If you have experienced depression for a long time that can make moving on your own to a new place harder. Even without depression it can be hard. So I would say go easy on yourself and just gently nurture yourself to do what you feel able.
For me connections with others have slowly emerged. For example, I have a cafe I like to visit. They know me by name there now, welcome me and I feel at home there. But in the beginning I had trouble even interacting because I was processing a lot of recent trauma I’d been through and was very shutdown.
It is possible to come out of your shell and gradually make connections, and that can really help with feelings of isolation.
Have you had a chance to get to know your neighbours and do you like them/feel comfortable with them? Even just friendly chats with them can be a start.
If you have a special interest or hobby there may be a group you can join, either in person or online. I’ve recently started doing some voluntary work and I’ve found just been around others for a few hours helps me.
As Smallwolf mentions talking to a psychologist or counsellor may help too. Just having someone to share how you’re feeling with who is present with you.
As Smallwolf says there is always hope and there are things we can do even if it feels hopeless. Sometimes it’s just taking small steps at a time. Take care and sending you kind thoughts.
