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Small achievement you managed to do today....How did it make you feel? Did it help you feel better today?

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hi everyone..

Their are days when just getting out of bed is a huge achievement...Other days we can achieve things like washing up the dishes or clothes, sweeping the floors, mopping the floors..very mundane and automatic robot like chores for the mentally well...They do these chores without even thinking about them...for people struggling with their mental health..these are huge tasks...

Very often I’ll get my vacuum cleaner out to vacuum ...then it will sit their for days, me looking at it, walking over it...until I can get motivated enough to vacuum..after I do find the motivation to vacuum...I am pleased with myself...
Right now I have a small foot cycling peddle machine, sitting on my front veranda..I got it out last week..to start exercising..it’s still their, I’m still looking at it...My thoughts each night is I’ll use it for a few minutes tomorrow..

My car hasn’t been washed getting close to a year now I think...Today I did managed to wash it....and discovered that it has a nice shine on it.....I did it...I achieved something positive today..which made me feel better in myself...

Have you achieved a little something today...and how did it make you feel...If you want to share that achievement it might make other people a bit more motivated to achieve something they need/want to do..

Looking forward to hearing about your achievement....and how it made you feel..

Little steps and achievements can lead to bigger steps..and bigger achievements...

My kindest and most caring thoughts...everyone.
Grandy...

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Bookgirl
Community Member

I managed to clean the bathrooms. First time in 3 weeks and it does make me feel better to have it clean.

Ggrand
Community Champion
Community Champion

Hello Dear Bookgirl, and everyone….🤗..

 


Well done Bookgirl, cleaning a bathroom is so physically tiring…you done such a good achievement lovely lady🤗….

 


Hugs everyone….🤗..

Grandy

 

 

sbella02
Community Champion
Community Champion

Well done, cleaning the bathroom is always a heavy task!

 

I felt really organised at work today with a lot more tables than we had the staff for, so I suppose that's my small achievement for today.

Hello everyone…..🤗,

 

During the cold winter’s days, it’s so hard to leave the warmth of my doona and my lounge room because it’s the only room with heating in it…My body says, stay curled up under my doona, but my mind tells me I need to get up and clean the house a bit and keep it looking at least respectably clean….

 

Monday, when I was at work, my neighbor phoned me to say that a strange and rather aggressive male dog was roaming the neighbourhood which jumped into her yard and was trying to jump into mine…I had kept my 2 little fur girls inside because I know they are okay and well behaved, the bigger rescue fur girl I keep outside when I’m not home….anyway neighbour asked me if she can put the bigger dog inside so no puppies will happen…(not desexed)…immediately my mind went to my untidy house, but weighing up the options of being ashamed of my housekeeping or having puppies running around. I swallowed my shame and said yes….(my house is never locked)….I suppose that phone call was a bit of a wake up call to keep my house clean and tidy…

 

When I got home after work, it looked like a tornado had passed through it…all my cushion were on the floor along with my lounge covers, the doggie beds looked like they were playing tug of war with them…thankfully nothing was damaged…First thing I did after I shed a few tears of frustration was to clean it all up….and clean my house also…

 

I am now trying to wash up after dinner each night before the days I go to work and the morning I do go to work, I look around and make sure things are all tidy….

 

Today, I caught up on all my washing, freezing my fingers while hanging it out….feels good to see an empty laundry basket😁….The clothes won’t dry today, so I’ll need to leave them out overnight and bring them in tomorrow afternoon….but at least they are clean….hmm folding them up and putting them away tomorrow….my mind is telling me I will do that, will my body co-operate with my mind?….only tomorrow will tell…🙄..

 

I hope today is a good day for everyone, and you manage to do the chores, hobbies that you want to do…

 

Hugs everyone…🤗.

Grandy..

Dear Grandy,

 

I relate to the uncomfortable feeling about others coming into your home when you haven’t tidied and cleaned. I have the same feeling. I struggle at both a mental and physical level to keep things looking tidy all the time and being up to date on household tasks. I should give myself a break over it, but can’t help feeling self-conscious when someone visits unexpectedly, such as my neighbour whose home is tidy and in order all the time. I recently had to call in an electrician and found myself apologising that things weren’t more tidy, when the only thing he cared about was solving the electrical issue. I am now also remembering a lovely lady I knew when I lived in the city. She found she had a dugite (very venomous snake) in her laundry basket. I asked if she called the snake catcher and she said no, she couldn’t because her house was too untidy. She said she just waited for the snake to leave 🐍

 

Today my achievement was putting out my washing first thing. I’d put it through the machine last night. I was in a lot of pain with what at the moment is suspected gallstones so I found it very hard, especially as it was a large load. It was quite cold outside too. But I got through it. After four hours the pain began to subside. After a mini sleep I managed a short walk in the sun that was so nice and came back to bring in my dry washing. I can’t see it getting all put away tonight, but that’s ok. I will do my dishes which will be enough for me today.

 

Hope everyone had a good day 🤗

ER

Hello Dear Eagle Ray and everyone…..🤗..

 

So many of us are alike when it comes to not wanting people to enter our homes unless it’s tidy….When my late husband was here on earth, all I done was clean, and more clean…the house had to be spotless* at all times, now it’s everything else but spotless…my late husband would never ever live in a house that’s really old and in need of repairs as my one is…maybe that’s why I bought it…hoping triggers of the past don’t emerge….how wrong I was…over 50 years of being brainwashed into my mums house and my house having to be clean at all times…just doesn’t leave me…Depression is stronger then my need to keep my house clean…until one day every so often I realise how untidy and unclean it is…then I’m to overwhelmed with how much I need to do to get it up to date…that the cycle of triggers,  feelings of uselessness and laziness stop me from doing anything about it…

 

My friend washes at night and hangs her clothes up in the morning….I tried that once, but couldn’t sleep knowing I didn’t hang them…(.probably OCD)…I ended up hanging them out in the darkness of the night…

 

I’m really sorry to know that you might have gallstones, my dil had them and eventually had her gallbladder out…she told me that gallstone pain is higher then 10/10…I do hope that your Drs. can do something to help ease your pain sweetheart…🤗❤️…I can only imagine how hard it was hanging out your clothes being in so much pain…so sorry…

 

I did just now wash up last nights dinner utensils….only in time to make another mess for tonight’s dinner for myself and my fur girls….it never ends🙄…I need to do so much more, but it’s cold, wet and raining and I don’t feel to do much more then to stay snuggles up in my doona on the lounge…

 

Tomorrow’s another day…

 

Hugs everyone 🤗🤗🤗.

Grandy..

Hello dear Grandy and All,

 

It is so incredibly hard not to be affected by that inner critical voice that someone else put there, isn’t it. I feel for you Grandy as I still carry the voices/judgements of others that are no longer here but still influence me. I am always waiting for some kind of judgement or attack that I haven’t done something right. But, although I can’t seem to stop that happening, I increasingly catch myself out doing it now and try to replace the inner critical voice with a kind one. So I’ll start to nurture the vulnerable part in me and tell her she’s doing a good job and she deserves care, instead of being self-punishing as I’ve so often been in the past. I think that’s why this thread you’ve introduced is really valuable, because it helps us to see what we have achieved and we can feel good about those achievements.

 

Yesterday my achievement was managing a walk by the river in the sunshine. I was just telling Paws on another thread about a Border Collie swimming out to try and “round up” a mooring buoy in the water. She couldn’t really do so with it being fixed in place, but it didn’t stop her trying several times. She then ran out of the water to say hello to me and I got a bit wet 😂🐶

 

I managed to make a simple dinner last night. I was not feeling so well this morning so I stayed in bed for a while. That was me caring for myself and taking it easy. I’m going at a slow pace today as I feel that’s what I need today.

 

Grandy, I hope you are managing to stay warm. Much of Australia seems very cold at the moment. I think it is quite alright to stay snuggled under the doona if that’s what you need.

 

Warm and cosy hugs to you and everyone 🤗

I sent two parcels to relatives. I had been procrastinating . 

As always, I love reading everyone's small achievements. Sending parcels sounds quite exciting, Quirky - in a world that's primarily online, it's refreshing to send/receive physical letters and parcels, I find.

 

I've been unwell this weekend, so my small achievement for yesterday was going outisde into the sun for a bit, and for today it would be having a little job hunt on Seek, which I've been meaning to do for a while but have been putting off.