As a kid...
In my home I learned that sometimes telling lies kept me safe because sometimes telling the truth still got me a hiding.
Telling lies was a strategy for staying safe.
And the more that I keep learning this lesson at home, the more it was reinforced until it became a deep-belief.
A limiting belief but still a belief that I held onto for many years.
The thing is as I grew and got older I still told lies, and sometimes I had no idea why...It was like an addiction that I had no control over.
The first step that I took to getting myself as healthy and as well as I could be, was to accept the unacceptable!
I began to accept all the stuff about myself that I despised and hated including all the lies that I had told.
I accepted and I forgave.
I know that forgiveness can be a controversial topic for some but I learned how to forgive myself and that has made it easier to forgive others - some of us have this in reverse, we find it easy to forgive ourselves when we have learned to forgive others - but learning to forgive and live, and grow from all the hurt and pain that lying can cause is essential.
You have to just allow yourself to be what you are without the judgement and then you can make healthy changes.
Criticizing and judging and listening to all the criticisms and judgments just creates a negative feedback loop...thats easy to get sucked into over and over and over again.
Remember that not everything that you think is the truth, it feels real...but its not the truth. And, sometimes what you're hearing in your head, the voice that tells you that you're useless and worthless (that was what I told myself all the time), thats the voice that's all lies, lies, lies.
Once you catch out and keep calling that voice out, it eventually eases up until you can trust yourself and your inner voice again.
Take care of yourself on this adventure.
muchLove
