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So lost

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Hi all, I’m new here.
not sure where to start really, but life is pretty average. I feel like it’s a constant battle and has been for around 6 years. We (husband and I) had so much going on. Loss of a business, had to sell our first home, dog got sick, had surgery $10,000 worth. Sold my car to pay for it, (then got a old little Mazda) husbands mental health went down hill. All in this time I was pregnant and then had our second child.
Fast forward to now and we have another business which is fortunately working better but slow, financially we are still battling (it’s a constant issue it seems, with 2 kids there is always something to buy!) we don’t live lavishly also, we are still renting, found out last year through Covid our son has ADHD & anxiety and that’s been a hard issue in itself to come to terms with then also find the correct meds etc.

life just seems constantly HARD. I’m starting to wonder if I’m depressed?! I don’t find much joy in things, parenting is a battle, don’t really love my job and it doesn’t pay much $30 casual rates, but happy to have one for now as I know others have it harder. Not really connected with hubby (and if you asked me about our bedroom antics well that’s like once a month these days, I just don’t seem to want it) , not much family support at all so hubby and I just battle along. Haven’t been on any family holiday in 6 years. Sorry for the vent and not really sure where to start anymore to change my life. Trying to be happy and put on a happy face seems hard work. I feel if it wasn’t for my family, I’d daydream about taking the next exit door outta here but then I feel guilty as I should be great full for what I have. Thanks for reading. M.

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white knight
Community Champion
Community Champion
Hi, welcome

Firstly this statement hit home to me- "Haven’t been on any family holiday in 6 years".

That happened to me in my 20's, I'm now 64. It led to burn out and a feeling of sadness that my friends enjoyed 4 weeks off every year when they'd go camping and visit the beach.

Beyondblue topic inexpensive idea, camping

Sometimes a 2 man tent, blow up matters, single burner portable cooker and one or two overnight camps can rejuvenate you both...and can be romantic too.


Beyondblue topic the financial world of snakes and ladders

Finally, I'd suggest a chat with your GP. He/she can refer you or treat you for any mental disorder.

Repost anytime. Well done for writing in.