Hey Shockwave ( named after the transformer? )
First thing, well done on telling your story to try and make sense of things.
There was a youtube video I saw about conflict resolution and it was useful for me. I am not sure if I am allowed to post a link but anyway, the major point was time and place to broach the issue.
Give it time and do it when things have calmed down.
But I am also a believer that if you genuinely apologise once, twice and then this issue is brought back up and used against you, that's not very fair. Sometimes people can grasp onto an issue and blow it out of proportion, torelieve themselves of a responsibility they are unwilling to own up to or don't want. It's ok to slip up and that is human. If your wife cannot forgive you then it really is touching on a deeper issue of trust. It's ok to slip up, but It's not ok to dive in. However, it doesn't seem to me you have done that.
Relationships take work and in a modern one, this thing of facebook and phones and dating sites is going to be an issue. But if two people are really sincere then they will forge a trust, and she should be willing to accept your apology.
Minor things can be blown up for convenience of cutting off because there is a better option for someone or it suits them. If you apologise and are sincere and try your best to resolve the conflict, then you at least know you did your best. It is a reminder to us all how damaging a single wrong email, website viewing or a single text can be in a relationship.
But I wish you the best with it, sharing of food is always a good thing if you cook for someone. Another thing might be to find a good relationship counsellor. All the best and thanks for sharing.
