My husband wants me to date other people
Hello Mothership, thanks for your comment and sorry for your separation, although you are still in contact with your husband.
After being married for 26 years there are people like yourself that don't want this to happen, irrespective of what your husband says, and why all of a sudden has this been said.
I am 67 and after being married 25 years we got divorced, much to my dissatisfaction, but we still talk and see each other, although she partnered up with someone 15 years older than herself, but now has dementia.
She originally told me the same thing, but I haven't and being living by myself for many years and certainly don't want a relationship, so you can decide to do the same.
If he says that he still loves you, then with help and treatment, you may be able to get back together, otherwise if you date, then property settlement will need to be done with your husband.
I can't tell you what to do, but from what you have told us, it doesn't seem as though you want to complicate this.
It's a choice that you need to make, but please ask any question you'd like.
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Hello Mothership, living in a small town, everybody seems to know what you are doing, whether it's exaggerated or not, and dating another person at your our age is definitely not like it was when we were 18 and at times all we want is some peace and quiet.
Take your time, something could happen without you realising.
Hello Mothership, if he says he loves you, well this takes on another variable, because it's not like when you first met, it could be a caring-love, irrespective of this, it changes how you feel, especially when he's dating someone else.
I can't tell you what to do, but perhaps it's time to let him go and do whateer he wants to do, then you can be free to do what you enjoy and once this happens it begins to regain your strength where you still want to talk with him and after a while not be bothered by what he has to say.
It has taken me quite a while to be able to listen to my ex talking about her older partner, who now has dementia, but we still talk and see each other but couldn't live together again.
She does what she wants to do and I do the same, but are two different people and she was my real first love.