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Dealing with loneliness and pressure?

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Hi everyone,

This is my first post here and I’m a little anxious about it. Honestly, I’m just hoping for a bit of advice/tips for dealing with loneliness and the pressure that I put on myself regarding relationships and friendships.

I’m 21(F) and have struggled with social anxiety for as long as I can remember. As a result, I have few close friends, and most of those have moved away and/or are in romantic relationships and have little time available. I’m also single and very self-conscious and inexperienced, which further feeds my anxiety and belief that no one would be interested in me romantically and especially not once they realised my lack of experience.

I guess as of late I have been feeling very insecure about all of this, and as though I am behind in life as everyone I know is in relationships, socialising and moving on whilst I am staying the same. How do I ease up on this pressure that I put on myself, because it’s weighing me down?

Thanks so much in advance,


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Hi I am 50 y.o male who didnt have a girl friend to i was 29y.o. I never spoke to girls all through my school days.I to suffer from anxiety and am still struggling with it,it really was so hard when i was in my 20s and all my few friends i did have were dating and getting married,i felt like the odd one out and i adventurally lost contact with these friends and have reunited with a couple of them after allmost 30 years and talk to them regularly.I my self did got married to that girl i met when i was 29 and have two children to her.Unfortunately things didnt work out and we got divorced.But this girl did except me with my anxiety and issues and problems i had.She saw a sweet kind man.I am sure someone out there will see you for the sweet kind person you are.Try and stay in contact with your closest friends.Go out there and do the things you enjoy doing and you will never know what will happen and who you will meet.

I am still very socially awkward and still have major anxiety issues and panic attacks.