Introduction - Hello Everyone

[Guest_498]

Hi all,

I'm new to this forum. I'd like to introduce myself. I'm 40 years of age, female. My interests include music (any genre), reading a great novel, watching comedy, Restuaranting, and learning new things. I suffer from depression and anxiety. Depression feels very lonely for me. I'd like to reach out for some support. Thank you.

[Guest_1643]

hi all -

sounds interesting the trauma course - that would be very helpful. I also go to a space once a week where you can drop in and get pretty good trauma counselling. I asked a billin questions and felt empwered...

You're right that abusive people move fast. There's always a rush for some reason. Everything is urgent. WOW. so true. Thanks for helping us all to understand.

I had symptoms like nightmares and flashbacks which are a bit --- uncmfortable... but I just ride with it now. I do try and avoid certain places where there are too many triggers but although it's annoyign to have that limitation - i'm not really missing much. Like old friends who were gaslighting me - goodbye...

Being belived is key. And we are all doing such good self-care hey Monks u go treating yourself - really happy to read

and Blubs I've learnt from u to take more care of little things like hair nails and skin - that's all felt like the last stuff on the list for me.

Thanks so much Blubs I had fun googling those clocks - a lot of this is stuff I've always liked and its gret to think of ways to set it up. Great minds think alike - i love my little vases now insanely 🙂 Tall and short was the way to go!!!

I think ptsd is generally pretty bad but to be honest it's something I'm okay with - i find comfort knowing that I can share my experience with others and they get it, and that in some ways our bodies are trying to protect us

[Guest_1643]

Hey Blubs, is tonight the fusion thai? or later in week?

re loneliness i find cptsd very isolating

i sometimes am so hesitant to talk about it because i feel like so many people just get this glazed look over their eyes if you mentin anything traumatic - they don't want to hear or go there. So it's something i've learnt to just keep to myself.

Maybe there's self-protection also after going through so much drama with toxic people - i think that's okay. you choose carefully

[ecomama]

Hi Sleepy21 - Hugs.

The fusion Thai is on Friday night lol!

The Course I was referred to by the children's Headspace Psych was offered through the local Women's Health Centre.

It was for victims of DV - intimate relationship DV.

It's called "Breaking Free" and is free.
Runs for 8 or 10 weekly sessions.
2 Counsellors facilitate it and it has pretty strict guidelines eg if you miss 2 sessions then you're out and can enrol in the next one.
Also TWO Intake sessions beforehand, to "qualify" participants I guess.

They give you a Certificate of completion, which I thought was strange.

This is in NSW.
But I have quiet confidence it's offered Australia wide.
Even Courts here recognise completion of this Course.
They even mandate some ppl to attend!
My Cert was used as evidence in Family Law Court even.

Anyway it's not a broad "trauma" course. Just DV.

SELF-CARE was one whole 2 hour session lol!
Funny I didn't get the connection to this and healing or anything much. Thought it was silly tbh lol.

Love EM

[Guest_1643]

Hi Em - that does sound strange to get a certificate - dear me but otherwise sounds amazing

starting the conversation at least. That's amazing you attended. self care sounded so weird to me - i can imagine the whole session was a lot. I used to hate the term but now it means a lot to me.
Hugs to you and i love the setting of the goals - helps i think.

[Guest_498]

Hey Sleepy,
I know what you mean about opening up & sharing your experiences with ppl. I'm the same way. If I did share anything theyre always in bite sized and only to ppl who care to listen and try to understand. Otherwise, yes ppl generally find it all too much or as if theres something wrong with you.
It is isolating, thats for sure. Like you, I deal with things on my own and tend not to involve anyone. It gets lonely.
No probs about the clock .. Just have fun searching for what youre after. 🙂
Looking after yourself is hard to do esp when we're either time poor or depressed. Last thing we ordinarily think about. I get that. But I always say if you dont love yourself or do things for YOU, noone else will. And, we should ALWAYS feel beautiful female. Don't let any body tell us otherwise. Helps to Keep up the level of confidence as well. Its important to feel great about yourself. Kerp looking after yourself - its good for mental health.
Dinner is tonight. Looking forward to it. I haven't eaten there in sometime. Glad we got reservations as theyre really busy with bookings. Flatties never eaten there, he'll like it I'm sure.

[Guest_1643]

hi blubs - i'm sure he'll love it tonight. People love to be shown new restaurants - maybe next time he'll take you to one that he likes,

ur so sweet to share how you feel similar at times - i think many find it that way - i did connect to what you said about the journey having lonely bits. I do get scared sharing because you never now if the person will be okay to listen ... its a bit risky i guess.

Enjoy ur meal tonight ... and the laughter which i'm sure will be there.

[Guest_1643]

thanks the clocks are really nice - are they sometimes called hampton or provincial? I've seen a few and love the style . I love your tips.
You're right about looking good and taking pride in your appearance. I've always struggled with that, sometimes i prefer to just blend in - but feeling good is good for self esteem. Nice clothes and grooming is great self care. you got it girl its so true - taking care of our outsid can help inside.

[mocha delight]

Hi all I haven’t replied recently as my mood has been more & more down then up. I also had my 4th appointment with my psychologist yesterday and it’s normal for me to feel really tired afterwards but this time I’ve felt very drained of energy and not hungry today so have only eaten one very small meal so this bit of extra is not my normal at all. But then again early this year I realised that a couple of years ago when I got to my lowest weight I’ve ever been since my mostly failure of a weightless journey from then to now that at that time I had started to full into the eating disorder thinking & nor could I see how much I’d lost as all I could see is me at the weight I had started at whenever I looked I in the mirror. I spoke to my psychologist about this during my session ie rementioned her about it and that I think I have literally a mental block as since then I can hardly even get near the 2-3 weight loss mark. And even when I don’t lose weight I still have that eating disorder thing plus I’m also a emotional eater. So my psychologist she agrees that it does look like I had/am slipping into having a eating disorder which she said she could give me all this info on it & info books ect ect ect but she does not want to overload me with anything more with everything else I’m dealing with or any stress right now but that we’ll work on it.

[Guest_1643]

hey mocha delight - i just wanted to say hello and sorry you've been feeling down. These are hard times and a lot of people's eating is affected. How do you feel, still a bit tired? Psychlogy appointments can be very intense.... i'm glad you came here to say hello and hope it made you feel a bit better. You've got this Mocha Delight, we're here for u

[mocha delight]

Hi sleepy21 thanks for your reply yeah I’m still feeling tired today but as I said feeling drained of energy and being of food the next day is not my normal after a session at all.