In answer to your "buy back" question I will answer best I can but the more you read then the better off you'll be.
There's a book called "But he say he loves me.." excellent. Scary too.
Buy back is what an abuser does when they think they've lost their victim / play thing / puppet.
Yes they want you back to keep doing what they want to do.
It's similar to "Narcissistic Supply".... you, me and other "victims" are like blood to Vampire.... they NEED IT.
We put up with their abuse for so long... they felt more ALIVE when they could abuse us. They ENJOYED it. They may even find it all very humorous. As ex does.... or did lol.
Inside it's mind right now, besides being massively hungover as it is from Thursday till Monday (hence no visits to kid's workplace)... it's LOVING this attention.
It LOVES seeing all these people around it, giving it huge swathes of sympathy. If it doesn't get enough sympathy or the cakes and beer supply has stopped then it cries and cried and people pour their sympathy out again.
It laughs inside. I saw it smirking SO MANY times at extremely inappropriate times.
Being a psychopath - seeing immense distress in others, even car accidents actually calms it, it needs these terrible situations.
It causes them too "by accident" so no one blames it. Loves the drama.
Or causes injury to it's own self - with bloodshed too! And loves the attention.
It has Munchausen's syndrome. Goes to Drs and specialists ALL THE TIME. More than weekly. I saw it in Court records.
IMO Abuse is more than an addiction. For some it IS them.
People might think that they have to say no. Okay yes. Initially so it's made clear.
But this makes no difference. In fact can be a red flag to a bull. Abusers HATE boundaries.
The more you say no and give all sorts of reasons WHY you say no.... it's all white noise to an abuser - They've GOT YOU just where they want you. Tangled in knots in front of them.
They love it!
One response only:
Zero Narcissistic supply.
No Contact.
EM
