Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
The good old grief cycle, anger, depression, & reconciliation also happen. You are in that grief cycle.. I took a forward step yday by calling police to say my truth & I went to the gym.
You have a good attitude so I'm sure you'll get passed this...
Hi , Im so glad you had a forward day .. I went to the psychologist this morning , don't feel any better , i just want it passed now ... She has moved on i have to keep saying , and i know all the negatives and all the reasons why it wouldn't have worked but i still feel a loss .. Hope the gym went well ..thanks for being hear i appreciate chatting what I'm feeling ..its such a big help ..
Glad I could be of assistant even though my post were quite short. Time heals all wounds as they say. It's good that you've got support around you and professional support.
I don't think it works when its negative. I stayed with someone that had baggage & issues & I had to walk.
