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relationship breakup

awrinkle_in_time
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Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
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Good Morning ....

How did the numbers fall for you ...Hope you did okay

I slept like a spanked step child ... ( thats a good sleep )

Had lots of dreams ...i was in China ...not sure why ...

Have a good day Monkey ...going to grab coffee am in the field today ..get my hands dirty ...work with the boys ...i enjoy that ...Hope you have a nice day ...ill get you another coffee no sugar and no cakes ... Luv Ya Mate xxoo

But I want cakes- apple pie?Lotto numbers didn't fall in the right way lol...lost money, just one small win this time, worst I've done so far. My grandmother won $1,000 at the birthday draw at the club though. I'll be going to the same draw soon, next month. I re- read this whole thread last night. We've written a bit of a novel.

MM.

Okay ...pie it is and a cake .. ...whipped cream ?

I know we have ...I thought about a re-read but didn't want to re-charge the memories ...

So the re-read was it okay ... ive said some crazy stuff ...

Have a good day , enjoy your coffee and cake and pie ...whipped cream is on the side ...you decide ..xx

that rhymes ...Later MM.

It was OK,with a lot of ( heart), spelling mistakes, there was some emotional repetition, going over the same thing and u seem to have grown. Common themes; sleepy music, the shrink lady,work,food. I felt good reading a lot of it too. Lots of feelings involved. U liked holding my hand a lot lol....it was a good refresher as I had forgotten bits. I forgot u tried dancing....:-)

Read some other threads as well.

Mum made some ricotta cheese so I just ate that with pasta and pesto- and of course coffee.

Would love some cake and pie with cream but the cyber food has no taste I just found out. I salivated though-

Having a fam- extended FAM bday lunch for my grandmother. She's in her 80's...incredible, strong, funny woman she is.

My work has been slow recently so I have a lot of time on my hands.

Chao 🙂

Gidday Mate ,

Yes it was such an emotional breakup ...Lots of grieving and maybe grieving for lots of other things as well ...Its been a new beginning for me ...I have been very mind full lately of how good i feel ...Lots of things have happened, positive things ,and i have made all those things happen... i have worked hard and haven't fallen for the easy way out ...and i think now those things are in place its given my the ability to just breath and say its all okay!!...

Its life ..we go through these things and come out the other side and its so hard to see clearly when its happening ..so thank you for letting me hold your hand it helped with my fears ...having someone who cared ...its just the small things that help on those days that are so cloudy ...

You also sound good Monkey ...Time does heal as long as you give yourself a chance ...Yes Cyber cake or coffee is tasteless ...that made me smile ...The pasta with the goodies sounds nice ... you love your coffee ... if i have coffee in the arvo i wont sleep .. i have a cup of English breakfast tea ...no sugar ... very little milk ...

The Birthday extension will be nice ...older people are awesome ...do you have long chats with her ...the wisdom is so good ....I miss my grand parents ...and the chats ...

Enjoy the quite time with work ...it will pick up again ...always does ..

I recon i would pick the wig ...just kidding ...You Beautiful Lady ...

just thinking ....hhmmmm....I recon you would make a great psychologist .... The study would be interesting ...do you recon ? ....I found when i did my trade ....i just love the learning ...and i did well at trade school ...i hated Hight School ....didnt see the point to it all ...Anyway ..your smart and your young ... just me thinking ....

Cold tonight ...heater is on ....will be warm as toast soon ....

Enjoy your Family time .... Catch Ya Later

xo

You could be a psychologist! The meditation, reading, being proactive,working hard,life experience,being supportive to others- I think u have the tools.

Thanks for the compliment, but I'm studying to be an occupational therapist- rehab that sort of stuff, it goes with what I studied ( personal training). I did used to want to be a psychologist.I wanted to b so many things in my earlier days.

What you've written is solid and yeah I cared and related to some of your past experience.

My grandmother and I have had lots of chats- she's loving. Sorry you've lost yours. I have 1 living one left.

Yeah that cyber food is tasteless I tell ya.

I think u have good eyes so prob would spot a wig. They make them very realistic these days though and with human hair. If ur up to date with wig technology u can prob spot them- u'll know what to look for but a lot of ppl can't tell.

Learning- forever learning. If only I knew what I know now years ago I'd be wise beyond my years. I'm around intelligent ppl which I love. Learning is stimulating.

So you like looking at faces on the dating sites. You can tell a lot just by looking at a person.

I think ur in the powerball tonight- good luck.

Hi , are you sure about them using real hair ...wouldn't it smell after a while ?

Have just watched Carpool Karaoke with Paul McCartney .....

cant get off YouTube ...

xx

Hey,

I'm 100% sure about it. I had hair extensions in my hair as well- human hair. U wash it 🙂

Haven't watched the Paul McCartney one will have to check it out. The George Michael one is good.

Watching a show about things caught on surveillance- very funny.

Hi , I believe you about the wig hair ... Hair extensions ...

Watching Lady Gaga...now ...she's awesome

will check out George next

Enjoy your show have you got pop corn goin on ..?

xx

Ya lady gaga goes off!

U could also get human hair extensions- men get them too ha.

Popcorn would be better than cheese and crackers, just ate those;

U eating anything? Even better having a beer,wine...maybe earlier, u prob had a hot beverage actually, def in the morning. Mum & I watched fifty shades of grey today- the second one. Have u seen it? I had seen the first and third one but today the second. Ahhh the romance.

Watched Seinfeld earlier, now sex & the city...

🙂

Look at u Youtubing away...

Y