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relationship breakup

awrinkle_in_time
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Hi , i was in a relationship the first after a divorce of a 20 year marriage , i didn't think i would find love again , i meet this lady through some good friends and we started slow seeing each other on weekends , we lived 2 hrs apart .. we found comfort in each other and the time we spent together was the best time i have ever spent with a women , i could watch the grass grow for ever in her company . as time went on the baggage in both our lives came out and instead of dealing with it we just broke up .. she was scared and so was i .. the going our own ways happened so suddenly and i couldn't believe it happened ...approx 10months ago ... we had little contact and got on with our lives ..i whole time feeling very sad i felt a massive loss .. honestly thought we wold spend our lives together .. i speak of the good times now but there were times that her baggage came out and with out an open communication at these times it would be impossible to have a lasting relationship ...no such communication was possible ... and i know us being apart is better ..but i am still so in love with her ...i messaged her a few days ago and showed her pictures of my apartment which i have renovated ..the finished product ..she didn't reply ..i messaged my feelings and she replied with i think you should move on like i have ..i asked her if she was seeing anyone and she said yes ...i had to get myself home and i vomited many times and just put myself to bed ..i am reliving the weekends i said with her and seeing another guy in her life exactly like i was ...i try to reflect to the times that help me understand that it wouldn't have worked between us but my heart is so full of love for her .. its painful and i can't stop crying
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I suppose I'm a bit like you in the sense that I'm fighting to be happy and free...which is why I'm taking the trip. I'm doing some self discovery. I want to be whole. The doctor thinks I have depression and I'm not having it no way do I want depression. I am scared though, I'll be spending nights alone sleeping in the campervan but I'm going to take that risk, face my fear and come home alive. I know the direction I'm travelling but don't have a set plan. I just want to pump the music, climb back into my body and know my soul is strong, know that I am strong...no more stress no more tears I want to do all in my power to be the woman of my dreams...plus I'll enjoy the scenery, train at gyms, eat out ya know have a good time, that's the kindof plan anyway. Nature is the best healer. Today I walked a whole length of a beach and back, there were thousands of seagulls flying in synchrony when the sun went down, life is simple for them but humans make theirs difficult.

I appreciate you taking notice of my support to others. I think u r really good with words 🙂

Also, I really want to get back in touch with my spiritual side..you know feed it, make it stronger....feel healthy overall, and just need a break from home life, getting sick of it lol...

Hi , i know what you mean ...the routine can get us that way ...I think we all get a little down at times ..we all have the good ones and the not so good ... There is so much depression around people just are not happy ...i recon you have the right idea get away ...back to yourself ... your great...

good for you doing a big walk ...i was going to do that this after noon ...but it rained real heavy ..so i chilled ..i have been looking at joining a gym ...i have been having a rest ...not been for 3 weeks or so ....that could be why i feel a flat ...coming good today ...i need to exercise i enjoy feeling well and its nice when the clothes fit well ha ha ...i had a guy run into me while i was skiing ...i hurt my shoulder and have been putting up with the pain for a couple of week hoping it would go away ...get better ..but is hasn't ....i got a quarter zone injection yesterday and it has helped heaps ...that wasn't pleasant ...but not as bad as i thought .... so once that feels better its into the gym ...

Thanku 🙂

& you r right about BB....a thread just made me crack open....I feel like writing a lot down now. There is a lot I haven't said or complained about that's happened to me and I deserve to be heard. I've let a lot slide. I need to remember that I am powerful..well I believe I am and that my voice can change things because it has...but I'm just angry right now at something. My trip will be a completion of everything. A trip of peace. I will do therapy. Soldier on yeah right....so I thought he,he.....not sure if I'm making much sense....just know Simon those that go through the most have the most to give, they become diamonds!!! I just need a polish....life can be the worse when certain ppl r in it....ive had ppl problems.... Still do....prob always will.....that's why I stay away from lots of them....I like you. I have peace....already been dealt my karma....its all good... I'm totally over sharing...

i just use the gym for a couple of machines ...the rower is good i enjoy that and its an all rounder ...as you know having done some PT work ... have been watching homeland on Netflix its action packed ...had some soup and toast for tea tonight ...have not been sleeping very well ..the shoulder wakes me in the night ... so that should get better real quick ...raving on now ...better get some sleep ... Good Night Monkey ...Have a great day tomorrow ...

the sea gulls in the sunset sounds pretty cool ... Glad you enjoyed your walk ...Night

Yeah totally get back into the gym...you will benefit greatly!!!! U know this

Not going to bed yet have to reply to your last message ...thinking

Get well shoulder, be well he he....

Yes other people ...i do believe the people you hang out with play a huge role in your mental health ...you need a good mix of friends ...its hard to get ...I have a mate who is 75 and thats a lot older than me ...he is like a father to me ...he is happily married and they both know me so well ...they a good friends that give me so much ...i know when i spend time with them i get my balance back ... i talked last night on the phone with him and i think thats why i have come good with my thinking ...we didn't talk about the issue ..we just chatted ...his stability rubs off and i know he gets things from me as well ... its all good ...