Purple

[Purple_lady1]

Hi

Was recommended to start my own thread so here it is. The gist of it is I am unhappy, unmotivated and don't enjoy or look forward to anything. Am always tired and hate my life!

[Feeling_Lonely]

Hi Purple,

Thank you. Yes I do pretty much everything on my own these days. Once I was surrounded by friends but not anymore. Somedays it scares the absolute crap out of me and I get major anxiety to even get out the door. But I’ve learnt to coach myself into it. To do a lot of deep breathing and positive self talk. I have learnt to be kind to myself, believe in myself.

I just finished the yoga class. I’ve only been going for a week and I suck at it but I don’t care! No one else is paying attention to me, the worst critic in there is myself. But it makes me feel good mentally more than anything. I walked past a cafe (on my way into class the cafe was packed and there was no way I was going in by myself). But after class there were a number of spare tables so I sat down. I always bring a book with me so I have something to do. No one is judging me for sitting by myself and I’m done with judging myself.

You didn’t answer the question though, what is one nice thing you are going to do for yourself this weekend? Be totally selfish, something that is going to make you feel good (even if it’s just for 5 minutes) and will make you smile, maybe even make you feel proud of yourself.

Be kind to yourself always. As crumpet said, the fact that you are posting here demonstrates that you recognise you’re having problems and you do want to get better. I meant to ask earlier too, have you been to your GP to discuss what you’re going through?

[Purple_lady1]

What is being kind to myself, eating, having a cup of coffee? I'm sorry but these don't make me feel better. The fact that I am alone in this life scares the crap out of me because the overwhelming feeling it creates. It is very hard to explain but it is awful. I don't know how you people do what you do I just can't. No matter what I do I feel like crap. What is going on? I feel worse because all of you are succeeding and once again I fail

urple

[Feeling_Lonely]

Being kind to yourself is not talking to yourself like you’re worthless.

Being kind to yourself is talking positively to yourself and believing in yourself.

Being kind to yourself is telling yourself that you can!!

Do me a favour, read back over this entire thread and take notice of the way you talk about yourself and to yourself. How does that make you feel? If you heard a friend talking to themself like that, what would you do? How would you try to make them feel better? Would you put them down or try to build them back up?

How you are feeling right now is where I was. I’m no different to you. Changing your mindset from negative to positive is key. If you can’t do it by yourself, if you are not strong enough to start to make positive changes in your life then perhaps it is time to visit the GP and get professional help. Medication, psychologist, counselling will all help you when you can’t help yourself.

I see you have still avoided answering the question... can you not think of one nice thing you can do for yourself today? One thing that might bring you a moments reprieve, a smile to your face?

You are worthy of and deserve nice things and moments for yourself. You can’t rely upon other people for this, you need to find it within yourself... the sooner you can truly learn and understand this, the better. Other people’s validation counts for nothing, it is how we see and treat ourselves that is the most important thing.

[Purple_lady1]

Hi feeling lonely

I must be so weak of spirit because I feel like I've been told off and now I am teared up and feel awful. I don't want to be like this. I would love to be able to do what you have done, I feel stupid telling ANYONE face to face how I am and feel. I hate my life! I hate me! I just CAN'T!

Purple

[Purple_lady1]

Hi Crumpet

I don't know what else to say, just that I feel defeated and crave human contact. The fear of being alone overwhelms me. Also me and my dog are getting older. I don't know how I will handle losing my dog. I have lost most everything else

[Purple_lady1]

Well here I am again. Is anyone on? I would love to talk to someone who cares

Purole

[monkey_magic]

Hi purple lady,

I'm on for a bit, go ahead.

[Purple_lady1]

Hi

I went out today (wow) but as soon as I walked in the door I was overwhelmed with the most hateful feeling of loneliness and despair. The feeling is so hard to describe. Sometimes I get so insecure about being alive or living the life I lead. It's a disgusting life. I have ruined it

Purple

[monkey_magic]

Hi Purple,

Are there things in your life you can change for example making new friends,studying something, doing something you used to find pleasure in/ enjoy?

Keeping active is good for stimulating the brain for eg. I swim & walk which means I'm around other people. How about shopping, buying yourself things, or selling what u don't need ?

What do u think u need to make life better or do u want to say more, vent? I'm just putting a few options out there sorry if its unhelpful and you just want to talk. If that's the case talk away.

[Purple_lady1]

I don't know what I want. I just want someone to understand. I feel like no one does. I can't do anything that makes me happy which is so strange because this didn't used to happen. You suggest to do things that make me happy but nothing does. I pretend that things are good. I I do anything I pretend I'm ok but underneath my feelings are still dark and lonely