Worried about my future and not sure where to live

[Earth Girl]

I'm worried about my future because I'm going to be 30 this year and I'm still having trouble getting a job. For the time being I'm fine because my parents are letting me live with them and they will also be helping to get an apartment or house, but we don't know which one would be better. I feel like it would make more sense for me to live in an apartment since I will be living by myself and it would be cheaper, but my parents are worried that there might end up being some scary people in whichever apartment I move into (I'm very shy and naive for my age). I know you can visit an apartment you're thinking of getting, but that doesn't garuntee that there won't end up being scary people there. I said to him that I will probably have to eventually move into an apartment one day anyway and he just said "mmm." (I think he knows I'm screwed either way).

My older sister told me that when our parents are no longer here that she would be able to help me out with money which is very kind of her and she also said that I could live with them which is also very kind of her, but to say that we don't get along when we live together is a HUGE understatement. When we lived at home together (the parent's houses) we had at least one HUGE fight every. single. day and that's if it was an okay day. We literally fought so much, it was crazy! It's got to be better than being homeless though.

I'm hoping I will be able to get a job soon with help from disability. If I can do that and I one day soonish move into a house and I get a partner, we might be able to share the bills one day if we live together.

Also, do guys find it a turn off if their lady doesn't have a job? I wouldn't mind being a housekeeper if my bf was okay with that just as long as he picked up after himself and didn't order me around. I would enjoy keeping the house clean and tidy. I moved into a group house last year and for several months I was living by myself and the real estate agent said she was very impressed with how I was looking after the house and so did a lot of other people and I enjoyed keeping the house tidy.

I'm assuming most men would want us to have a job as well though? Also, I still need to learn how to cook (other than just really simple things like fish, eggs and pasta).

[randomxx]

Hi there earth girl.

I really feel for you and others atm bc housing is so mad in this country atm but also bc my d 22 is having a helluva time finding something to, it's all just so wrong.

Was wondering have you tried applying for Gov housing or ? l know it would take yrs but MH issues often get things sped up.

My d said she doesn't want to be that tied down anytime soon to any certain area right now so she hasn't but might be an idea for you.

Wouldn't sweat the sister thing it was really nice of her to offer so just appreciate that for what it is, it going any further probably won't even happen anyway. Funny, the brother l got along with worst when we were younger is actually my fav brother now so there ya go.

The bf thing, many would prefer working especially in this day and age and costs but there are still old school around like myself. l wouldn't mind really and who knows what his position might be, he might not even need the extra he might even prefer her not. a warm home to come home to has a whole lot to be said for it for some.

Anyway, good luck with everything hey.

rx

[Earth Girl]

Hi randomxx, thanks so much for your post!

I haven't heard of gov housing before. Could you explain to me a bit about what it is?

Yeah, it was really lovely of my sister to offer that and we might get along better now than we did back then.

That's also true about the bf thing, some may be fine with it while others would prefer us to also work to help with costing and I might be able to get a job by then.

I'm sorry your daughter is struggling a lot at the moment. I hope everything works out well for her too. xx

[Fiatlux]

Hi Earth Girl,

Lovely to meet you.

I don’t know what area you are in but a secure apartment complex in a not so dodgy location would be the safest in my opinion.

I was fortunate to have purchased a nice apartment in an ok location in a nice complex in 2019. That year my eldest son then 24 also moved into a nice townhouse with a couple of friends. However their rent was going up every 6 months so I finally convinced my son to move into my apartment which I had vacant for a little while. He’s 29 now but lives alone in a nice new 2 bed, 2 bath unit which used to be an NRAS (National Rental Affordability Scheme) building. However the NRAS has since been abolished and rents are very high again.

My son too without the bank of mum could not afford to rent in the complex.

As soon as the NRAS was abolished, quite a few people were very soon needing to move or expected to pay the market rate for rentals.

When I lived alone as a single female, I found security was the number 1 priority. Secure parking, security entrances and we have a full time building manager during the day and a security guard overnight patrolling the property. You do need to feel safe and secure when living alone. 

Unfortunately rental property like that is very scarce at the moment.

Good luck. Fiatlux 🙏🏼

[Earth Girl]

Hi Fiatlux, lovely to meet you too. 🙂

Yes, I'm starting to think that living in an apartment might actually be safer. My Dad is worried about possible types of people living in the same apartment area as me, but there are dangers to living in a house too. I think it would be nice and handy to live in an apartment very close to a shopping center.

It's cool that your apartment had a security guard overnight. Also, you two are both right about rent and payment for housing because the prices apparently just go up and up these days.

Thanks so much for your post! I'll definitely have to talk more to my parents about maybe looking into apartments rather than housing.

[randomxx]

Heya earthgirl.

Well , l'm no expert l've just known a few people that have got places and my d's also talked about it a bit.

l think it's called public housing you'd have to kinda check all that out. Mind you if your parents can help well you probably won't need it anyway and it'd likely be a long wait , yrs, so by then you might be ready to do something with parents help anyway. lt was just a thought if you got stuck and with mh issues is all.

Anyway , good luck with everything hey.

rx

[Earth Girl]

Yeah, I'm very lucky that my parents can help pay for costing of rent. Thanks for your help and for the idea. 🙂