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Weight loss surgery, depression and alcohol

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I had my first baby at 18, second at 21.

Divorced their father after five years due to his Drug addiction.

Met my now husband in 2004, we have a blended family, two boys, two girls. My husband has a much closer relationship with my daughters than I do with his sons.

I have always been obese but never really let it get to me.

I had my first weight loss surgery in 2011, things didn’t go as planned, ended up having more in 2018.

I lost my father in law in 2018, my father in 2019 and mother in law in 2021. I don’t think I’ve been able to mourn any of them as it was up to me to organise everything. We are still going through the process with my mother in laws estate, it’s been nearly two years.

I’ve always been the one to knuckle down and get stuff done.

I’ve never been a big drinker, was always the deso Dave on nights out.

For the past couple of years I have been drinking spirits.

It came to the point where I was drunk nearly every afternoon, then I passed out and hit my head earning a night in hospital.

I spoke to a psychologist a few times but don’t think she was the right fit for me.

I don’t drink everyday but when I do it’s nearly the whole bottle and it’s in secret.

I have no motivation, no enthusiasm for anything.

After reading many other forum posts I’m wondering if depression has reared its ugly head?

I’m just wanting to know if there’s anyone else out there dealing with these kinds of issues 

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Hi doodel,


Thanks for reaching out here, you've done the right thing. Also thank you for sharing your story. It sounds like you've been through a lot. 


Based on your lack of motivation and drinking I would definitely recommend talking with a professional. I know you spoke to a psychologist but you are more than welcome to shop around. Your GP might be able to find a counsellor or psychologist who specialises in alcohol issues also. In terms of your mental health and depression you can do a check in here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/mental-health/mental-health-check-in-k10 

It's not a diagnostic test by any means but can give you a rough idea of what support you need. 


Regardless its best you have a chat to a GP and share with them what you have with us. Druginfo and the adf also offer some great information and you can find some great support through their website here: https://adf.org.au/help-support/ 


I know you're going through a battle at the moment. But you've done an amazing thing coming here. Please checkout the links and update us on how you're going. You're definitely not alone.