Along with Grandy, I offer you the warmest welcome ❤️
I've found it's the case with some people that they can become somewhat insensitive over time and can struggle when it comes to feeling for others. It's not that they necessarily set out to become this way, sometimes it simply happens without them realising, based on a whole variety of factors. Then you have someone like Grandy, who is the complete opposite of insensitive. Such a person can sense another's pain, another's needs and so much more. Personally, I love sensitive people. They can make life so much easier and more enjoyable in so many ways.
I was saying to someone just this morning how one of the ways I like to lead people to gain a better sense of where I'm coming from involves their imagination. If I can lead them to see in their mind how I'm feeling, I find I can gain a better response. Doesn't always work but it does have an impact most of the time. Being a mum, my son or daughter could easily trigger my imagination if they were to say to me 'I want you to imagine I'm in a place in my life where I'm completely lost and desperately in need of guidance. I want you to imagine it's quite dark and what I need most is someone who can help shed light and offer me guidance. Now I want you to imagine you are the person to do that but you choose not to show up. Can you see this?'.
If your parents can't be triggered to action through their imagination, it pays to find someone who can. This will be someone who can be led to imagine how you feel, where you're at and what you need. Perhaps this could be a trusted aunt or uncle or relative of some type. Maybe that support and guide could be a school guidance counselor or, as Grandy mentions, someone from Kids Help Line. Maybe it's someone else. Perhaps it can be someone who leads your parents to share responsibility for where you are in your life right now, someone who's able to wake them up to your genuine needs. We parents/adults can be a little asleep at times to what's really going on in our child's life and what their needs truly are.
