Hi skw2000hk
As Dean mentions, looking into what a division of assets will offer you could be one way to go. Doesn't matter whether we're a wife or husband, male or female, the law simply sees it as a division of assets, taking a variety of circumstances into account (such as who gains custody of children, who came into the marriage with what, how much in the marriage was jointly accumulated etc). While your wife may have gained plenty through Super, legally she may still be required to split it to some degree. Depends on the circumstances. You'd have to find out when it comes to where you stand.
A different way to go, and this one's seriously challenging, is figuring out whether you're capable of living together as housemates. This is something my husband and I are currently doing, largely based on us supporting a 17yo son and 20yo daughter who still live at home. With greater financial opportunities that come from us remaining together, we're gradually managing to find what works and what doesn't when it comes to reforming our relationship into something that actually works. Outside interests are a must. While we have zero interest in each finding a partner (absolutely zero interest), finding people who can lead to a much happier life is so important. As Dean mentioned, one way of doing this may involve you connecting with a group that shares an interest in your hobby. It's not just about the hobby. In such a group you might meet people who've faced similar challenges to the ones you currently face, people who can lead you to manage such challenges in ways you may not have considered before. They become an insightful supportive group that shares a common interest.
Living as housemates may mean new sets of rules and boundaries. For example, when one may have been responsible for most of the housework before, now it might be about both sharing duties equally. When one may have been more of a listener or problem solver than the other, now it might be about both being good listeners and problem solvers. With such an open minded way of living, both have to be open minded. As I say, it's seriously challenging, based on both having to reform in certain ways. The most important part of such an arrangement involves first asking the question 'Can it be done or not?'. If not, staying just becomes a depressing form of torture.
