Help with BDP

[imdone]

My 24 year old daughter has recently been diagnosed with BDP. She was given information from her GP and a referral to see someone, however she hasn't done anything about it, that was 2 months ago. She is very difficult to live with, she can be fine for weeks, then BAM, she wont go to work, is abusive towards me..etc..

I don't know how to help her with this, I try talking to her but she just tells me to f**k off. I'm so concerned for her..what do I do??

[jtjt_4862]

Hi imdone,

Thank you for posting on the BB Forums. I'm really glad that you were able to make the post here. Pardon me for asking, did you mean BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)?

Caring for someone with mental health issues can be physically and mentally taxing, as it comes with numerous amount of challenges. So the most important thing when caring for someone with mental health issues, is to take care of yourself first. The next thing you can do, is to try and learn as much as you can about BPD. While I'm not well versed with BPD myself, there are a lot of resources on the internet for you to learn about BPD. For example, do check out helpguide.org "Helping Someone with Borderline Personality Disorder" for some guidance on caring for someone with BPD.

If you need additional guidance, may I recommend giving the Beyond Blue Hotline a call at 1300 22 4636? They are available 24/7. Let them know what you're going through at the moment, and they will be able to point you towards the right direction.

Take care of yourself imdone. You're not alone, and always happy to chat more with you.

Jt

[Sophie_M]

Hi imdone, 

We are really sorry to hear what you are going through, it sounds like you are doing your best to be supportinve and to be there for your daughter in what must be a relly tough situation. We know it is incredibly hard to look after someone with a mental health condition and we want you to know that your wellbeing is just as important. 

If you feel like talking to somone, you can always call us on 1300 22 4636. Our kind, caring and helpful team can offer support in the moment as well as strategies for looking after yourself when you are feeling distressed. 

KidsHelpling support young people up to the age of 25 and so could be a useful place for your daughter. They also offer Parentline, a place to talk about how parenting is impacting you and to get advice and support. They have a number for each state so you can follow the link above and find the right one for you. 

Thank you again for your post, as Jt has said it is incredibly tough to be supporting someone with a mental illness. It is really important to look after yourself however you can, including reaching out like you have here. 

Kind regards, 
Sophie M

[Guest9337]

Hi imdone. Welcome to the party here on bb forums.

Maybe your daughter has rejected the diagnosis of BDP? If so, perhaps taking her "side" of rejecting the diagnosis might help daughter feel a bit better... and then the obvious thing to do is to seek a second opinion.

you might say in your own way> "Hi daughter, I'm not happy with how things have worked out about the BPD diagnosis, should we try another doctor for a different opinion?"

or perhaps rephrase it into your daughters language...

Is something along those lines gonna help you two?
love dng.