feeling alone, scared and unsure

[blythebee]

I have not been diagnosed with any mental health disorders but I think there's something wrong with me. I've been going through a really tough time lately and recently its been getting a lot worse. I want to get help but I can't do that without talking to my parents and I really don't want to. I don't have a very close relationship with my parents (or anyone in my family really) and I feel like I can't trust them and that they won't understand what I'm going through (whatever that is). I don't talk to be friends about this stuff either because I don't want to be a burden to them. I can't get anything done because I can never focus and I don't get much sleep, this is causing me to fall behind in school. this causes more tension with my parents and family and makes me feel inadequate compared to my friends as they are so much smarter than me. this forum is kind of a last resort for me and I would normally never do something like this but I just want to feel happy again, without having to actually talk to someone. sorry for how messy this, this is more a vent of my feelings

[JJANEF]

Hi Blythebee,

im not very good at giving advice I apologise, but I am a great listener and reader and I am sorry you are feeling the way you are. I just wanted to stop by and send you some love ❤️

[blythebee]

thank you, it means a lot

[cait2206]

hi, just read this and i feel the same way. i also haven’t been diagnosed with any mental health illness but i just feel something isn’t right. i’ve been supporting my friends one who has been diagnosed with anxiety and the other with an eating disorder but i can’t help but feel super alone and uncared for. i’ve told this to my friends and they think that i might have depression but i don’t know if this is me just trying to convince myself there’s something wrong with me to explain these feelings . i have such a close relationship with my parents but i’m too scared to tell them i’m feeling this way because i’m scared they won’t understand or think i’m overreacting ... i just can’t help feeling that what i’m thinking and feeling isn’t normal and that i could get help... but i don’t really know .. i don’t know what to do !!

[Christa1]

HI, I am new here too. I hope I am permitted to mention specific health services - I have read through the guidelines & haven't found anything that says I can't, so, have you tried contacting Headspace? They have great services for supporting young people.

[blythebee]

hi your post really resonated with me because it describes pretty much exactly how im feeling, and its nice to know im not alone in the way i feel, like i havent made it up or something. if you have a good relationship with your parents i would suggest talking to them.

[Scallywagin]

Hi blythebee,

Sorry to hear about your feeling and I can relate to it as I have been subjected to such comparisons.

Yes, it would be good if you had some to talk about it. Its surely helps but I would like to tell you something.

Please, and repeat..please start believing in yourself. Believe that you can do it and believe that what you will do you will put in 100%. There is nothing in this world that you cannot do. Like your smart friends you have a brain too..only you need to tweak it. Concentration is very important here. Swami Vivekananda once said that the difference between a smart person and an ordinary person lies in their level of concentration. As you start to concentrate you will be able to focus.
If we are given a task which is more than our skill then it will give rise to anxiety and if we are give task which is less than our skill it will give rise to boredom. We dont want either. So, if the task given is more than our skill we will need to break it into different pieces that we are skilled in and focus on them. As we finish each piece of task we will shift our focus to the next. Like this we would be able to (1) complete the task, (2) become more skilled, and (3) train our brain to concentrate and focus.

Please keep us updated on how you are going and dont lose control of yourself.
I wish you all the best.