Alone

[via123]

Not sure where to start i want to talk to someone but i dont want to burden anyone i feel like such a failure...... at work in life i dont really have much friends as i put work over them my family arent really the talking type about this info but i do feel like ive been depressed so awhile just putting on a brave face ... but i also know theres people out there doing it even worse so then i suck it up & keep going but i feel today its very heavyyyyy .

[Sophie_M]

Dear via123
 
Welcome to the Beyond Blue forums via123, we are so glad that you have made you way here and had the bravery to post and will be reaching out to you privately to offer you some additional support this evening.
 
We are sorry you are feeling this way right now but please no, you are no burden and what you are feeling is valid regardless of what others are going through.  We would love for you to give one of our fully trained counsellors a call for some counselling support, we are here 24/7 on 1300 22 4636 or via our WebChat.  In addition, our lovely friends at Lifeline (13 11 14) and the Suicide Call Back Service (1300 659 467) are always there for you whenever things are feeling like too much to cope with.

Please keep safe via123, and remember you aren’t alone on your journey to better mental health.  We will leave you in the hands of our lovely community members who will be here on your thread soon.  Thanks again for sharing. It’s a powerful and brave first step towards feeling better.


Regards 
 
Sophie M
 

[geoff]

Hello via, any MI will make anyone feel as though they are a failure, that's exactly what this illness does and that's why people become depressed and why some people aren't even interested in helping you, but this isn't your fault, no one puts their hand up and asks for this, as there could be many reasons why it's happened.

You can try and bury yourself in work, but underneath you may be struggling and not achieving what you had intended to be doing, which can make your situation worse.

If your family don't want to talk about how you are feeling, then it's much easier to pretend to them that there is nothing wrong, yet you are left to yourself to suffer from this.

Everyone who has a MI does suffer in one way or another, but each case is different and should be treated as such, and by saying that, by seeing your doctor can determine what type of help you require, because the longer you wait, the worse your position may become.

There are people who understand and want to help you.

Geoff.

Life Member.

[therising]

Hi via123

I'm so glad you've met Geoff and Sophie who have offered guidance in the ways of moving forward with support. From my own experience, I've found depression to be something that's almost impossible to manage alone, for a whole variety of reasons.

Tiny bit of a backstory so you know where I'm coming from. I'm a 52yo gal who faced long term depression from the age of around 20 through to 35. Since coming out of long term depression, have experienced periods of depression here and there over the years. The reasons for the periods of depression point to that need for help, with managing. Some have involved psychological challenges. Some have involved physical challenges which have led me into a depression (including the depressing nature of a B12 chemical deficiency and the depressing nature of sleep apnea) and some depressing challenges have been soulful or soul destroying. So, depression's not a cut and dry thing, it can be a body, mind and soul thing. Some may simply think it's an issue of the mind and that's all. Whether we need physical blood tests that can help in revealing a depressing chemical imbalance we may have been tolerating for a while, psychological support/guidance or whether we need a kind of soulful counseling, these can be 3 key areas worth wondering about. Sometimes all 3 can be worth looking into.

One of the key things I've learned over the years is...there is always a good reason as to why we can feel our self in a depression, always. Rarely does it start off as obvious. Managing depression, managing to come out of it and managing ways in staying out of it turns you into somewhat of a 'detective', regularly detecting all the ways of skill development and greater self understanding. Can make you more sensitive too, as you develop a greater sense of why you can be facing periods of depression. The desperate or determined need to come out or stay out of a depression develops your instinct, based on you getting a feel for why you're facing it.

Can you detect how what you're facing may have come about or started?

[jaz28]

Hi via123,

I am sorry you are going through this, it must be hard for you. There is some great advice on this thread, but I would just like to add that it might be a good idea to see your doctor about what you are feeling. Have you seen your GP or a mental health professional about this?

I hope things improve,

Jaz xx

[Merry G]

Hi Via123,

First of all, thank you for sharing. It is hard to be vulnerable about personal struggles, especially with people you have not met.  

Depressive symptoms, including feeling like a failure, are very common and can be an outcome of various personal characteristics and situational events. Just because other people are in a 'more difficult' situation, it does not mean your thoughts and feelings are invalid or unjustified. We all have different thresholds and that is ok.

Unfortunately, avoiding your depressive symptoms may actually make your symptoms worse. I can appreciate that it is hard to discuss mental health struggles, especially due to the stigma and general awkwardness. However, I think it would be beneficial for you to talk to your loved ones, helplines, and/or GP about your depression. If you want to talk to your family, you could try and do it in a less daunting away, such as sending them a text about your experience. Helplines are a great and anonymous ways to vent about your situation, which has the benefit of catharsis and the crisis worker could provide some valuable advice. Finally, talking to a GP has the extra benefit of referring you to a psychologist/psychiatrist, if that is what you want. I strongly believe that your family, helpline workers, and GP are happy and willing to help you, so please do not feel like you are burden. At the end of the day, I'm only providing suggestions, so please do what you think is best for youself.

I’m wishing you all the best,
Merry G