The Transcendent Rainbow Cafe - social space for LGBTI members

[Paul]

It would be so great to have a thread here where we can chat about almost anything. We can have fun, tell jokes, share stories, you name it!

There's a "BB Cafe" thread in the general area where lots of people chat daily and have established some nice light hearted conversations, it's treated as if it's a real cafe, there's even virtual baked goods and coffee!

Let's create a chat here for anyone to join, in particular the GLBTIQ community to let their collective hair down and chill out. It's a safe space to be yourself.

We just need a name 🙂

[MsPurple]

Hi everyone. I think I may pop into SN thread. Gotta look for it in the threads

Raynor how exciting, now it must feel real. You won't have to pinch yourself anymore to see if it is really happening. How is the T going?

I have been a bit down of late. I got a blood test and seeing GP next week, wonder if possible vit d deficiency could cause this. It seems to happen around the same time every year. Hopefully it is something like that. It sucks when you feel good for a while then it comes crashing down again. Like i have gotten used to surfing then all of a sudden the waves become rough and I feel like an amateur again

[startingnew]

Hi everyone sorry to change the topic but i havent got anyone else to talk to and im so confused.

I dont meantion my feelings surrounding women anywhere other than here.

So a while ago i met this young woman (now 25 so only 4 yrs difference) and i had butterflies and that giddy feeling. I didnt persue it because i was even more confused then than what i am now. Anyway... i seen her again yesterday at the same place i was where i had my 21st and i still had those feelings. Im such an idiot. Shes bloody married! (Only found out yesterday) How can i have feelings for a married woman. I prob wont see her again nor would i persue it further etc etc but my feelings are confusing and im having trouble unjumbling them.

are these feelings really real? I dont know. Does that mean my feelings for women are real?

[startingnew]

Sorry i shouldnt have even asked. I no better not to even think about her now. More aftet are those feelings real

[Just Sara]

Hey 21 yr old SN!!

You're perfectly normal! Your body let you know you're turned on. It may be physical or otherwise, but it's lovely all the same. If she's married, that gets dealt with by your mind, not your body or heart. I believe it's called 'choice'. lol

It's all good miss worry wart! I'm so happy for you. Those feelings don't come along every day ya know. Lap it up and enjoy the ride, albeit a short lived reunion encounter. Sigh...I'm envious. 🙂

I've written on your thread in the past about panicking over good feelings. As we dwell on bad stuff so much, when good stuff happens we immediately challenge it. We don't recognise those feelings because they don't happen as often, so it's 'got' to be bad right? Well no! It doesn't.

The more you recognise and 'accept' you're worthy of good feelings, the faster you'll recover. Allowing yourself to just feel good without questioning it takes practice.

Feel the lurve...

😄 Love Sez xoxox

[startingnew]

Hello my Sez xoxo

lol i can just see your face as your reading and writing your response. It normal to you but its not normal to me which is why i asked...

Im not doing anything about it shes married now and i doubt id see her again. Shes the one i had a 'crush' on earlier but it wouldnt have worked back then either.

Yes i do remember you saying that. Why did it have to be her out of all thr bloody people i see it had to be the one i wont be doing anything about. The mind will have to remember that is a no go and i already know that.

lol so im not some heartless robot who has no desire for anyone. I just get the wrong picks haha.

Maybe someone else will come along soon hey. Might be nice to have a relationship with whichever gender as clearly i like women. Cant fake these ones. But just not with her. Not a chance.

Love you loads xoxo

[Just Sara]

You go girl!!!

Now you know those good feelings are ok, you can recognise them when they happen again without worry. I'm really happy you have that feeling in your memory bank for future reference.

So it seems you have integrity too. You're a beautiful woman and should be proud of yourself. I am...

Love Sez xoxo

[Just Sara]

Hey there Steph;

I'm sorry to hear you're not doing well hun. Vitamin D? Are you getting enough sun or are there issues with your diet? This time of yr means it's seasonal, so maybe it is lack of sunshine?

The lows when they're present make everything else hard, even when they're not. I hope you ride it out without too many problems. Some 'me time' might be on the cards yeah? You deserve it!

Let us know how things are travelling ok. Take care...

Hugz...Sez xo

[startingnew]

You always manage to get a smile. Not sure how maybe its just you.

Yes real they are but not to be. Will get over it but dreams are also for free

Love and hugs

xoxoxo ❤❤

Hey MsP

I hope your able to pick up again soon. Hugs to you too ❤ ❤

[Raynor]

hey SN, i couldn't say anything on that any better than the eloquent sez already has. It's ok and ok to think it's ok.

MP sorry this is hard time for you. I've been kinda dark too, why i've not been here, but the name change thing i guess jolted me out enough to post again. Thanks for understanding.

Rayne

[startingnew]

thanks Raynor

Hey Sez would you mind taking a look at my other thread not the disclosure one. its called 'Self assessment questions' you usually very good at that so would love your opinion. need some brain power on there!