Hi BabySteps
Wondering if you find people have this need to fit you into some neat little conformist box when your nature is more outside the square. If your natural self does live more outside the square, I congratulate you.
One of the many things I've learned on my quest for self understanding and self acceptance involves the fact that a lot of people are highly questionable. Not only are the questionable but I can often have them registering on my personal scale of insanity. Being a mind/body/spirit sort of gal or what some may call 'Into all that woo woo stuff', I've copped a lot of flack over time from people who cannot help but share with me their opinion of me. I could even say to them 'All that woo woo stuff has kept me out of depression for the last 16 years' to which their response could be 'It's a load of rubbish. You're crazy'. Not only do I find it questionable that they completely dismiss what works beautifully for me, I find it questionable as to why they also have to degrade me in the process. To me, this is somewhat insane behaviour. I could ask myself 'Okay, where does this person register on the scale of complete insanity?' This is part of my management strategy in not taking things personally.
So, you could ask yourself, just for a start, 'What do I find questionable about my father's friend?' and see what comes to mind. Could be - He's way too closed minded, too judgemental, he lacks a filter between his brain and his mouth and the list may go on. When you question yourself - You're open minded, you tend not to judge as much as others, you are thoughtful before you speak (you have a filter) etc. Based on this, which one of you displays somewhat insane behaviour and how insane is it? Which one of you seeks to evolve and which one of you refuses to?
Once you realise you may be more evolved beyond previous generations, this becomes a game changer. Once you realise you're more sensitive than previous insensitive generations, this too becomes a game changer. If you're sensitive enough to sense degradation, to sense the deep need for questioning and to sense a closed mind in another, it's then that you can recognise your abilities. I can't help but wonder what else you have the ability to sense.
Give me a sensitive guy and he'll amaze me. Give me a completely insensitive guy or alpha male and his predictability will bore me.
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