Lonelyness in SA. Ocd,agoraphobia and cfs contribute.

[Denv12]

Hi.

 My personal life is bad.I live on my own,I have agoraphobia,cfs and recovering from ocd.I have 1 social visitor every week and 2 people helping me with my shopping once a week.The chronic fatigue means I dont have enough energy to go anywhere and agoraphobia set in because the cfs keeps me at home all the time.I am alone a lot.I even have the symptoms of lonelyness where because I've been on my own too long I've been miming my own thoughts. The only way I can stop the miming thoughts is to have people in my life everyday.I need conversation.So much for trying that idea.I'm in many forums for all my problems.I still cant find new friends locally.In the time I've posted in this forum and the previous one nothing has changed in my lonelyness.The intenet gives me something to do by helping others and get through a day but not finding new friends in person.Can anyone relate to that?

I have email contact with several internet friends but no companion.I cant even get into a relationship.How can you meet someone for a potential relationship in my situation? I'm lonely.Its that simple.Considering what I'm going through I dont get depression.Major bonus.No depressiion what so ever.I'm lucky there.

[Damien]

Hello Denv12.

Yep, I hear ya!  I am out of CFS now but I was laid out 1990-2003 with that, and since I have GAD now I occasionally get a heavy bout of "the wearies" when my emotions are down.  The loneliness and the inability to do something about it is hard.

I also get the whole internet thing.  I love that beyondblue has forums like this, and 1300 numbers to call, but I suppose you'd understand when I say that as good as those things are I'd love to meet someone at a proper table for a decent cup of coffee and a face-to-face chat.  A hug would be nice too, even a handshake, but some real skin and not just a voice.

I get ya.  I can't do much else for you, but I hear you and I understand it.

🙂

[KMODITY]

That is so brutally honest,and for that..I commend you!! I can relate. I need conversation daily. It's hard because my flatmate is not much of a conversationalist and sometimes I don't speak to anybody in a day. I have panic attacks anywhere there are people in public. I'm scared but I am insightful,and darn strong. I smoked marijuana for 10 months this year and worked as a telemarketer. I gave up the telemarketing because of panic attacks. I've given up the weed,cigarettes in the last couple of months and this has led to the social anxiety and panic attacks in public.my mind gets dizzy and I feel faint out in public. Worst thing EVER!! Hope all is well and thank you for your post.