Irrational fears and odd behavior /thoughts.

[Mimi1979]

For most of my life I've done things and felt things and never have it much thought until i got older. As I've become an adult ive relised ive got some pretty weird 'things' that go on in my head. Most of them have continued into adult hood, some have disappeared. 

Here is a list of them. ..

1. Fear of vomiting. This fear has continued into adulthood.  Not so great when your a mum of two kiddos.

2. Fear of sleeping at friends houses or away from my mum.  This fear ended (thankfully) once i hit teenage years however,  there were still nights as a teenager that i would be so terrified i would still get into my mums bed for comfort. Im now the same with my husband.  If he's away for just one night i go into sheer panic/anxiety mode.

3.saying everyone's name in my head...in order. If not i was scared somthing wild happen. Weird. This stopped once i got married. Never really understoodthat one at all.

4.not saying 'love you' and kiss my husband as the last thing at night terrifies me.  I think "what if it's the last thing i ever say. ??? I even say it if he's not with me.

5. My home, clothes, and looks are so different from everyone else that is normal. Ive always felt from childhood that everyone in the world is normal and im just trying to catch up.  Everything from when i was learning at school to my home decor as an adult. 

6. Head scratching.  I sit there everyday scratching my head. Even when it's not itchy. It's almost like an ocd habit. I dont know why i do it. 

There are a few other things too but these are the main things.

Why do these odd thoughts/behaviors pop up in our lives. I'd b interested in the psychology behind it. 

Id also love to hear others and their thoughts and behaviors. Mayby in not as odd as i think i am??

[Mummybee]

Hi there Mimi,

I think this is similar to what I just said to Blueymoon, but anyway here I go.

Everyone is different, when it comes to our minds, who knows whats normal and whats not? Blueymoon hears people speaking her thoughts, you have superstitions about things you have to say in order to feel relaxed, sometimes when my anxiety is high I use small things in my world to give me answers I know I cant have.

My anxiety relates usually to my health, so if im worried I have some horrible disease I might look at something simple and say "if this happens before I count to three, im ok, I don't have MS"  then I count in my head and if  I see a white car or whatever thing I said to myself in my head before I count to three, or ten or whatever my brain decides, then im ok! YAY!  Ive been doing this at times of stress since my childhood. Its just me. We are all different.

🙂

Mummybee

[Bluey_moon]

Hi Mimi, how are you going? 

Just like Mummybee said, we are all different, with our own habits and rituals! 

My personal opinion is there is no "normal". 

My worries about my thoughts, stems from my health fear of scizophrenia! When I'm tired it's much worse! Just to confirm, what happens to me is in my dream state and I've been to numerous professionals who all say I'm not scizophrenic! 

Honey I wouldn't worry about normal, unless these habits start to worry you or affect the way you live your life! 

Ps: my home decor isn't that modern but it feels like home! 

[geoff]

dear Mimi and I have to say to those that have replied back to you, because what I can see is that OCD is playing a huge part here, and please by saying what all of you have said is by no means irregular for someone suffering from this illness.

We can have OCD in a very strong intimidating way or we can just have it slightly, and the extent from one to the other is extreme, but what it does is control how we think, it's not what we want to think about but in contrast it forces us to have these compulsions, rituals or habits, whatever how you want to describe it as.

I've had it for 55 or 56 years doesn't matter but over those years my obsessions, compulsions, rituals or habits have change considerably from being really extreme to now to a level which I can cope with.

There can't be any normal personality, because even computers can mess up due to a virus or such, so then any person who thinks they are normal then there will be someone else who disagrees with them.

My number is 4, however I can still do something more than 4 times, but I count to 4 irrespectively, but I hide all my obsessions to myself, but this still won't answer your question, and 'why do we get OCD' is something which you can google, it's very interesting.

Can I just assure you all, that you're not strange and if you disagree then doesn't everyone act in strange ways at times, everyone has a different type of thinking or behaviour.

I do have to agree that OCD is a horrible illness, but as I have said before as you age all your thinking will change and hopefully will be not so bad, but what I haven't mentioned is that I take medication for OCD and depression, it's the same medicine, so perhaps this is what you could ask your doctor about, and don't feel agitated or uncomfortable in telling your doctor, it's an illness which they all know about and if you feel as though you don't want to see them then ring the BB phone number which is above and they will direct you to a doctor who is aligned with BB to then consult you. Geoff.