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I’m so horribly unattractive
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I’m so horribly unattractive.
my toxic ex told me I was a ‘6/10’ and ‘plus size’ and embarrassing looking. That is why he showed me photos of other women in bikinis.
I’m that unattractive that he lost interest in me and started treating me like garbage. I know deep and meaningful relationships are not based off looks but he made me believe that I wasn’t very good looking. Even though I have had people, strangers come up to me, hundreds of time and compliment my eccentric clothing or my long wavy ginger hair.
he said to me once ‘you’re looks don’t matter anyway because you are only a 6/10.’
I’m starting to believe what he said about me. ☹️😢😭 please give some suggestions or advice.
many thanks,
lots of love,
PF.
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Hey there Croix,
how are you? First and foremost, yes I have time to do art as well as study.
i do plenty of drawings and some painting. Typically use water colours or sometimes pastels as I admire the vibrancy of them.
I enjoy my writing content class as well as photography and sound.
Thank you for your response. 🙂
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hey PF,
how are you? hope you're doing ok 🙂
sorry for the late reply btw. wishing you all the best xx
also that sounds cool what you're doing at uni! glad you enjoy it 🙂
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Hello,
Don't panic dear, I am sure you can work this out it is just an annoying administrative bump in the road, not one that will change your journey 🙂
Am I to understand that you cannot qualify for HELP (the govt loan scheme for tertiary fees), and you are trying to pay your fees as you go? If you are not sure if you qualify, I would certainly recommend you check (most Australian citizens do qualify but it depends on the course you are studying). Normally the university issues an invoice once it gets to census date, and then if you have filled in the correct applications for HELP the charges will be sent to your HELP debt and you do not have to pay anything upfront. The government loan scheme allows you to essentially study for free now, but you have to start making payments once you earn over the threshold (around 50K / year from memory. You just complete the forms online when you are taking care of your enrolment at the university. If you are a full time student and receive austudy, you may also be eligible to borrow additional funds of approx $1000 per semester if you need to cover other costs through Centrelink (student start-up loan) which can be added to your HELP debt. This may be useful for costs such as such as a computer or books or extra curricular activities. To take advantage of this option you apply through the Centrelink website.
Speak to someone at your university that can talk you through the payment options, as it can be confusing system to navigate for the first time. I know that sometimes you can get unhelpful people, but there are usually equal numbers of nice people who will do what they can to help, so persist if at first you do not understand your options.
Do not take the threats personally that are contained in the letters to make you pay up (withholding grades etc.), they would just be automated letters made to frighten people into immediate payment! If you find so way to pay in time, the grades would not be held up forever anyway, only until the fees are settled.
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Your ex sounds like a real douche.
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And that is exactly what a narcissist feeds on...
homestly if someone is that shallow they are going to treat you poorly based on their perception of how you appear, they do not deserve your empathy. Especially if that person is a partner!
how you look should only matter to you. Who you are is what should be more important to others.
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Hey PF 🙂
How are you?? Once again sorry for the late responses.
I'm sorry you're having trouble with your financial part at uni-have you been able to look into anything Boudica suggested? You aren't silly at all for a hiccup along the way, I'm sure you'll be able to get things figure out 🙂
As for feeling empathetic... people taking out cruel, untruths onto you no matter what is so not fair on you and they do not deserve you feeling bad for them doing that because it's straight up mean and clearly you guys standard are on opposite sides of the spectrum. You're on the moon in the stars... he's well... lowwww. You are such a compassionate person and that is an amazing quality xx use it to heal your struggles 🙂 You deserve it
You are beautiful, strong and independent and you have far to go 🙂 Work on yourself, and getting to those goals you have. You'll get there and do great 🙂
