Feeling anxious about moving to a new place

[Anxiousberry]

Hi Community

I recently had to make decision to move out from my current place. This happened very quickly and since I have decided this I feel very very anxious (could'nt sleep or eat well on the day I made this decision, feeling restless time to time). I have been stressed a bit since end of last year as I had to make a lot of changes to my plan due to increase in Covid cases. (e.g., change of plan from going back home to staying where I am etc.) Do you have any advice on feeling less anxious for moving to a new place. Thank you.

[geoff]

Hello Anxiousberry, I only wish I could offer some advice because each time I've had to move from an 8 acre farm to a residual house and then to a 2 bedroom flat it has been very distressing for me, I can just say that after a little time you do become used to your new surroundings, but the worst part is packing up everything, throwing out what you don't want and then to unpack.

I've still got boxes in my cupboards I haven't unpacked and now I don't know what's in them.

I just knew it had to be done.

Good luck.

Geoff.

[HappyHelper88]

Hey there Thanks for your post and welcome

Im sorry to hear what your experiencing, change can be hard and especially with covid we dont have much of a say
My advice as someone wo has packed up there life and moved interstate 3 times...... just remember the reason why you are moving and what the move will bring such as a fresh start or a new opportunity....new local shops, cafes, restaurants, walking trails, parks, pubs, bars etc

you can also see it as a opportunity to create a new space like re decorate and when your house is nice and visual pleasing your mind should appreciate that too

I hope this helps

[Anxiousberry]

Thank you Geoff.

Hearing your experience made me feel better. As I read your reply I realised that I was most worried about the unfamiliarity of the new area. But also if helped me remember the past times when I had to had bigger moves then I currently have to and I was okay once I settled in. Thank you so much for your advice.

[Anxiousberry]

Thank you for your advice HappyHelper88.

From your advice I learnt that I was thinking a lot about what could go wrong rather than thinking about the positivity of moving to a new place. I will try redirect my thoughts to more positive aspects of moving to this new area. Thank you so much for your advice!

[james1]

Hey anxiousberry,

Moving can be very stressful indeed! I don't have much in the way of advice because I haven't moved much, but when I moved last year, I really tried to stick to as much of the same routine as I could, then I tried to look for what was new. I guess I am a creature of habit, so that helped me a lot.

Otherwise, don't forget that unfamiliarity will be temporary. Once you get used to the new place, that feeling will go away - and if you still don't like it, you can always move back home then. And if you do like it, great!

James

[Anxiousberry]

Thank you for your advice James.

Yes, I think having same routine as much as I could also helps me. (Once I was able to get back to some of the routines after I have sorted out somethings I was feeling a bit better.)

And thank you for reminding me that if I don't like it, there is other options! From reading your comment I realised that I was also constantly worried about 'what if I made a wrong decisions to move'. but I guess I will never know if I don't try new things.

[james1]

Haha, "what if" is such a sneaky little trap! I mean, it's a really helpful question to ask because it keeps us safe within our comfort zone (not a bad thing at all!), but as you say, you'll never know if you don't try 🙂 And as long as you have good support around you, most things tend to work out alright in the end. Whether that means exploring new things, or finding out that maybe they're not for you and having people support you as you go back or explore something or somewhere else.

[geoff]

Hello Anxiousberry, the place you move to there are always good points as well as though you wish you didn't have to move, but in your previous residence, there were also good and bad points, so you learnt to avoid what didn't suit you and the same will happen living in this new place.

Nowhere is perfect, there's always something you wish was better and the flat I'm now in was offered to me by the real estate, the landlord is terrific, anything that's broken is fixed straight away and the first question I asked him, was he planning on selling the unit because I never want to move again, and he said no.

Living where I am, the good points outweigh any bad ones, especially as I'm getting older.

Best wishes.

Geoff.