Anxiety after drinking feel like I cheated

[WCollins]

Im 30 years old and in a great relationship with my partner. I went for some office drinks last night and was chatting to one of the girls at work.We were having a good time just talking and in all honesty I was trying to guide her in the direction of one of my Colleagues as I think they would be a good match. The night went on and we had some more drinks went to a club and and then all decided to go home. When I was almost at my door I decided to message one of my colleagues to ask for the girls number. I don't know why but I did. I have woken up today with the anxiety that I have cheated or betrayed my partner. I have and will not have any intention of ever leaving my partner but this alcohol anxiety is filling my brain with thoughts and scenarios that I have cheated. I know this doesn't seem like a major issue but I am climbing the walls with fear. I have had reassurance already from my co-wokers nothing happened and we all had a good night but every-time I drink this happens. I think it stems from an early relationship I had when I was 18 I cheated on my then Girlfriend after drinking to much and ever since the paranoia has been rearing its head.

[white knight]

Hi, welcome

Ive had 90 jobs and 15 professions in my working life. I'm now 63yo.

Of all of them I've ended up with one friend.

Professional people like psychs, GPs, physios all have to put a barrier between their treatment and their urges. You should do the same.

Cease after work drinks and socialising to create that barrier and stop temptation.

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TonyWK

[Billyc]

Hi W,

i kind of have to agree with Tony,

I didn’t go the avenue of one partner one show..so I put my hand up, and lied to the mother of my children.

Im 41 now and have been single for 3 years, I still try and sustain an amicable relationship with her, and she tries just as hard for the sake of the girls,

Can I say to you, it’s not the better path.. there are regrets, maybe tell your partner what’s happening? Maybe not, just accept the choices you make will have their fare share of consequences.