Anxiety about work

[Noomi]

I am looking for serious advice.. I feel like this is the only place I can turn.

I am 24 and I work in marketing, however I have found that I have been made redundant from nearly 2 roles already. I am just so upset and taking it to heart/personally that it’s my fault and I am very incompetent at doing my job.

I have started at a new job now and really just want to stay here for a while because my partner and I are looking to buy a home this year.

Can someone please help me with my worries. I feel so upset that I’m just incompetent at everything. 😣

[Guest_7403]

Look at from the businesses perspective....what was the reasoning behind it?

[Sophie_M]

Hi Noomi,

We are so sorry to hear that you are feeling at fault and incompetent after losing your job. We understand that this must be so overwhelming for you. Please know that you never have to go through this alone, and support is always here for you.

If you would like to talk to someone we would recommend that you get in contact with the Beyond Blue Support Service. They are available 24/7 by phone on 1300 22 4636 or on Webchat 1pm-12am AEST on our website: www.beyondblue.org.au/getsupport  One of our friendly counsellors will be able to talk through these feelings with you and can offer support, advice and referrals.

We also think it would be worthwhile to have a look around the forums and see if there are any other conversations that you feel resonate with you. 

Please feel free to keep reaching out here on your thread whenever you feel up to it

[Petal22]

Hi Naomi,

Wellcome to our forums!

Sorry to hear you are feeling this way…..

Have you tried to challenge your thoughts?

Try to think positive…… I’m sure even though you were made redundant it wouldn’t have been because of your work ethic……

Im sure your new job will go great for you….. just be positive about it…… the energy we put out we receive back….

if your worries are really getting to you, you could see your gp and do a mental health plan this will enable you to see a psychologist who can give you many strategies to help you..

here to chat

[Pumpkinella]

Hi Noomi,

That’s really tough. I had a friend who was made redundant three times! And she was definitely not incompetent. I understand though its so hard not to take it personally when it happens more than once.

Remember you are starting out during a pandemic so quick organisational shifts and redundancies unfortunately are much, much more common. It sounds to me like you have just been a little unlucky.

I know it can be really scary when you’re buying a home, but all you can do is give it another go. Even to be able to get a job in this climate is really difficult – so WELL DONE. You obviously interview very well, which is one of the most pressured scenarios a person can be in. That doesn’t sound like an incompetent person to me.

Many people feel like they are not worthy of their job – that they are fundamentally incompetent and don’t belong there. It is so common there is a name for it called ‘The Imposter Syndrome’. One important and interesting take back when dealing with these kinds of feelings is that if you care this much about doing well you are likely not incompetent. Those that are really ‘incompetent’ (not that I am a fan of that language) generally don’t care at all about what they are doing and therefore wouldn’t experience your anxiety about doing well. You know who does though? High achievers.

And I agree with other posts that seeing a psychologist or counsellor if you don’t already can really help – remember they can assist with all kinds of issues and dilemmas.

And its always good to remember that you are a human being first deserving love and respect so take care and remember - BE KIND to yourself.