Easy to forget

[Madstar1329]

I wake up and look at my life and I am less than impressed. I hate what I look like, what I do and pretty much everyone around me. I feel like no one really sees me anymore, like the mask I have made for myself can fool anyone. Some days I ask myself why I even getting up in the morning..... 

[geoff]

dear Madstar, hello and thanks for joining the site, where your comment seems as though you feel as though you're jumping up an down in the same spot, and not getting anywhere at all.

Your comment is a sad one and shows that might you have some form of depression, and what it infers says a hell of a lot, but I'm not going to do the guess work, and hope that you can get back to us.

Please do this in your own time, and hope that you trust us here. Geoff.

[Doolhof]

Hi Madstar

Welcome to Beyond Blue and to the community here.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us. Okay, so it sounds like you know what you don't like, now think how can you change your thoughts, emotions and wishes to things you do like?

When I don't feel good about myself, I put on a bright coloured shirt, make up, do my hair differently, tell myself I will exercise more, walk more, pluck my eyebrows and put on my favourite jeans.

Find a different activity/interest/hobby/event to attend/person to chat with.

We can all get stuck in a rut and sometimes a change of scenery can make all of the difference.

It all takes a little time and effort and it is well worth it.

Like Geoff mentioned, you may be experiencing some kind of health concern as well, so having a chat with a Dr. wouldn't hurt.

There are also so many "self Help" and "motivational" books out there. Check out your local library.

Regarding your friends and people around you, they may just be feeling the same way you are!

Think outside the box, do something different and see how you feel after. Invite a friend to join you in going for a walk, rock climbing, painting or whatever.

Cheers for now from Mrs. Dools

[Neil_1]

Hi there madstar

Welcome to Beyond Blue and thank you for coming here and providing your post.

A short and sweet one that actually reveals a fair bit in one way and yet in others, there’s a lot of unanswered questions.

May I ask what does get you up of a day?    Do you have children?     For me, they are my pretty much ‘be all and end all’, they mean that much to me – oh, I’m talking obviously about my two children here, as I haven’t met your children – indeed, if you do have them.  

With regard to what you look like, what you do etc, Mary has supplied some excellent advice on these kinds of issues – issues by the way that you are definitely not on your own with.  These kinds of things hammer away at most of us and things we really have to work at in order to successfully get through each day.

So with a few responses to you now, it’d be awesome to hear back from you, if you’re at all able too.

Kind regards

Neil

[Madstar1329]

I don't have children, I just have my family and work really. I have one great mate who makes me feel better but I feel lonely all the time. Thankyou for replying. I just don't know what I can do to make things better, I feel like I have tried everything but nothing helps 

[Mr__Brightside]

Sorry to but in here. My name is Moriarty. I can understand how you feel. When I here my alarm go off in the morning, I can argue with myself for half an hour wondering if I should bother living today. I tell myself reasons why to get up. One of such at the moment is to continue the story I'm writing at the moment. Even if its just a sentence, after writing it I feel much better, like I've achieved something that day. Try and set yourself some goals. I also think you might benefite from talking to a doctor. If your uncomfortable with that, try talking with a friend you trust at the start. Get back to me. ~M 

[Madstar1329]

That is a really good idea, I will try to set myself goals. I'm really considering going to see my doctor.  it's just weird for so many years I have been this strong person who never let these feeling put me down but this last year has been so hard and I feel like I can't tell people how I really feel without them feeling uncomfortable. I feel like a different person and I'm a little ashamed so I haven't really told anyone what's been going on 😞

[blueangel]

Hi there Madstar1329,

Let me start by saying welcome to the Beyond Blue community! You've made a positive step towards feeling better by reaching out on here.

I'm so sorry you are feeling the way you are but I can assure you that the way you feel is the telltale signs of a depressive disorder, so you are definitely not alone and most of us on here have been where you are at least once.

The best advice I can give you is to keep yourself busy and find something that motivates you. Set yourself long term and short term goals and things to strive for/achieve (and treat yourself when you've completed them). I make a point of setting a daily goal to make one persons day/make one person smile every day. It sounds really silly - but I've found that helping other people and cheering others up enables me to forget about my own struggles and in addition I get the satisfaction of knowing I've made someone happy. 

Goals don't have to be big, just things that you can constantly work towards and note your progress. The progress acts as encouragement and gives us a sense of purpose - which is precisely what we need when we feel down! 

Exercise also works wonders and boosts self-confidence and self-esteem too (in addition to providing heaps of physiological benefits).

Just remember the rough patches do pass and when you feel your lowest, it can only get better! Be patient and do what makes you happy. 

Best of Luck

-blueangel

xx

[Mr__Brightside]

Hello again. You have nothing to be ashamed of. I be straight with you. It can be uncomfortable to talk to people about things at first, especially when you're used to being such a strong person. But doing so will help. It will get easier. If you feel like it, when you think of some goals, I would be interested to hear them. Keep in mind, you've already started talking to people just by starting this thread. Talk soon. ~M 

[Narniakid]

Hi Madstar1329 and welcome to BB!

I am sorry to hear you are feeling so down, however you've come to the right place. Definitely have a good read of the information and resources on the website - understanding what your triggers are and the symptoms of depression will help you to recognise and accept what you have.

I suggest making a trip to your local GP and see what they say - they will be able to refer you to a specialist or psychologist, and get the right treatments for you.

In the mean time, keep a journal with your feelings on the day's events, and keep yourself busy - whether through work, a hobby, art, or social clubs. Surround yourself with things and people that motivate you and make you happy.

Again, I commend you on using the forum for help, and I wish you good luck - let me know how it goes! Stay positive! It will be okay!

Crystal