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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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The Young People space is a sub-forum within the wider Beyond Blue forum community. 1. Its purpose is to provide members aged 25 and under a space to discuss anxiety, depression and other related life issues. If you are aged over 25, please be mindful that this forum is a space for younger people to connect and provide peer support for each other. 2. Content from this sub-forum is displayed on both the beyondblue and youthbeyondblue websites. 3. Please bear in mind that some members find content relating to suicide and/or self-harm distressing or triggering. If you would like to post on these topics, please do so in our Suicidal Thoughts and Self Harm section. Please see also our guidelines for making posts on this topic. Posts made here in the Young People sub-forum containing content relating to suicide and/or self-harm will be moved. 4. These forums are moderated, so your posts may not appear straightaway. Information on how our system works can be found here. Being familiar with our community rules can help ensure that your posts appear online as quickly as possible. 5. This is a peer support community, and to get the best out of being here we recommend that you 'give support to receive support'. More on how that works here.

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I’ve been noticing a lot that people are basing their opinion of me off someone who i am not friends with anymore opinion. It’s really getting to me because i was somewhat friends with these people before i had a falling out with this person and now it seems like they instantly choose her side. I’m not nasty and am always friendly to people so it gets me down a bit that they can’t make up their own opinion on me based on their own experience. The falling out was purely due to just not getting along as friends anymore. Is this common in early 20s or is it the people Im around, or just my experience. It causes a lot of anxiety when i’m in social settings now as i feel so judged and unwanted and instantly shut myself out because of this. I’m not nasty and i never cause drama or anything like that so i just feel lost.

Loneliness and worried

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Hi im feeling worried and sad because i feel very lonely and i dont know how to make friends online irl i try but it dosent work i wish there was an app to make friends

Friendship problems

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I have 2 friendship groups, one specifically I’ve gotten really close to in lockdown. Over time I’ve drifted apart but I still hang out with them. Lately when I hang out with them they never really talk to me. When we hang out they always look at me weirdly, when I wave in the hallway they don’t even spare me a glance. When I ask how their day(s) are going they reply ‘ok’ and move on. I feel like the friendship might be one sided but I can’t tell if I’m being dramatic and too sensitive? Because maybe it’s my fault but none of them have ever told me I was doing anything wrong so I’m not sure.

Panic and parents

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Hi. So I've been feeling pretty crap recently and was just wondering if anyone can relate?I've thought about talking to my parents about it, but they are always dismissive, and make frequent jokes about how 'mental health' is stupid and everyone needs to grow up and get some real problems. I don't know what to do about it, because I know I'm not okay, but whenever I talk to them my mum says 'it's probably hormones'. They are a nurse and a doctor so they don't have much empathy when it comes to mental health as opposed to physical health, and often don't realise that the things they say are harmful. I've had panic attacks before and am often highly stressed, usually about trivial things, but I've never talked to a GP or counsellor before about anything. I don't have a very good relationship with my mum, she's not very physically affectionate, and it's really hurtful. I feel immensely guilty because I know my problems are so minor compared so some people, but I just wanted to know if anyone felt the same, or had any advice.

Twice exceptionality - autism and 'giftedness'

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Hey beyond blue community, I never thought to do this 'til now, but I am wondering if there are any other '2E' people out there. The term 2E or twice exceptionality refers to when you have giftedness as well as something like a learning disorder or autism. It's been really weird being a young adult with giftedness and autism. I feel like way more people know about autism than giftedness, so everything feels like it becomes about my autism. There seems to be little mention of how being gifted impacts my life, only my autism. I ask because I often feel really alone. These days I find my giftedness more isolating than autism. I know a lot of wonderful young people with autism but I just don't feel like I relate to the things that they struggle with. For instance, sound and light aren't a big deal to me as an autistic person. But they are to some people. What gets me more is probably aspects of my giftedness, like always being the youngest in uni, hiding how well I do academically because I don't want to show off and not getting my young adult peers. I just feel like a total imposter because I have both of these things. Being gifted means that I have achieved really great marks at uni - while being years younger. But because I'm autistic and anxious, I experience a lot of issues around anxiety and being perfectionistic. Still, these go by unnoticed because how could be something wrong with the teenager whose years ahead of everyone? Anyway, just wondering if anyone has felt something like this. Just a bit tired of feeling invisible. Of my autism being invisible to my giftedness, and my giftedness being invisible to my autism. I don't know if that even made sense!

It feels like such a miserable time to be alive

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All I seem to see on the news nowadays is either bad stuff, REALLY bad stuff, or convenient distractions from the variants of bad stuff. The climate is poisoned, the animals are dying, the landfills keep piling higher. Inflation's soaring higher by the millisecond, our currency is frail and weak and our houses are growing ever more expensive. Oh, but don't worry - the Matildas are playing tonight! I was expecting to leave high school with my head held high and a smile on my face, looking out over a world of opportunity and possibility. However, I now expect to leave high school with microplastics choking my lungs and a million mortgage papers in my arms. I may very well go homeless at some point in the next few years.And even if I do make it out of this deathtrap okay I'll probably be screwed over later down the line. The only jobs I've got talent/passion for are being snatched up by AI left, right and centre. Good luck to me I guess. I really do wish I could just tune out from everything and run off somewhere society won't find me - where I can throw all my tech away and just enjoy my life as is, which is what we were all born to do. Yet as nice as that sounds that yields its own plethora of problems. No healthcare, no assistance, no supplies - you truly do have to rely on your own. It feels like there's no way out. It'll probably get better at some stage but I'm having a very hard time picturing it doing so.

Can't bring myself to get out of bed.

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I'm not sure if this is the right area to post in but I've really being struggling to do anything lately. I'm 20 years old and began a TAFE course in July about something that I'm really interested in. The thing is though, I've been struggling to get out of bed to go since the second week of the course. It has been about two weeks since I've gone. I've done this kind of thing several times, ever since year 7. I've dropped out of high school about three times, and left another TAFE course that I was doing last year. Recently, I've been doing really well in life and even managed to go off anti depressants earlier this year, so I have no idea how I got into this rut and I'm really mad at myself for doing the same thing over and over when it comes to school. I'm spending all my days in bed, and ordering a bunch of food in pretty much every day so I don't have to do anything. I really want to go back to TAFE but I'm terrified of receiving judgement from the teachers and classmates. They will probably all know each other super well now and I won't really know anyone and they'll probably think I'm weird. I could potentially try speak to a counsellor at the TAFE, but their submission form is broken and I'm too embarrassed to do that anyways. I booked an appointment with a therapist for the end of this week but I feel like I'm at my limit so I wanted to try posting here.

Year 12 ruined me

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Throughout all of highschool I was getting only A and B grades now I can barely get B’s and I’m a straight C student, year 12 has absolutely ruined me I don’t know what is in store for my atar I don’t know anything I am a extreme perfectionist and these scores have ruined my self esteem, I don’t need an atar to get into the school I want but throughout all of Highschool all I wanted was a high one. And It’s all my fault I should’ve studied harder I should’ve got my assignments done and I didn’t I am so burnt out and done. Please help me find some clarity or hopefulness

Anger Issues?

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Hi, I wasn't quite sure which section of the forum to put this in, but as I am under 25 hopefully here is relevant. For the last four or five years I have been subject to becoming extremely angry or dejected quite easily, even from the smallest inconvenience, but this was limited to mostly just frustration and maybe a bit of yelling. Thankfully at that point, it felt controllable and I was spared the embarrassment of having a hissy fit over nothing in front of others. This could be caused by anything ranging from problems with video editing software I was using to minor arguments with friends, but as it was not affecting others or myself in any major way, I did not think it was an issue. However, in the last year or so, I have noticed it worsening to a degree where outbursts have been much more loud and violent, as well as extremely common. It also now takes much less inconvenience to set me off, such as my GPS sending me in the wrong direction when I am driving, for me to become physically restless and aggressive, and to begin screaming threats at the GPS voice (thankfully nobody is present for these embarrassing non-issues, and if they are I am able to control myself via shame of being caught yelling at my car). For larger issues, several instances have now occurred where sudden outbursts of rage have affected relationships, and I have even lost some good friends of mine recently because of it. I can sense that other friends and family seem to be concerned as well, and I'm extremely grateful that nothing has happened in a public space like my workplace or university. I'm unsure if this is related, but in the last year I have additionally noticed my hands shake slightly but uncontrollably. This isn't enough to hinder everyday tasks, but for those that require a lot of precision I have lately noticed myself struggling with. Unfortunately, therapy or some sort of psychological assessment is not in my budget currently, so any tips would be appreciated. Thanks,Matthew

School problems

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Ok so hello, I’m a female in middle school and currently I am having trouble with school! I barely go to school these days because, we’ll I’m going to be honest with you.I have like only 1 friend, and in that friendship I feel like I’m the only one putting in effort to keep us together. She never really seems to have fun with me, but with my other classmates she’s always laughing and smiling. So in the morning when I go to school sometimes i see her with my classmates( or by herself) and I just can’t get out of the car. It’s a bad habit of mine but I haven’t gone to school for a week and I’m too scared to go back. I’m considering starting school of air because I love being at home with my mum (she’s a stay at home mum) and my dog! My brother is always telling me to stop being a b*tch and just go to school, but he doesn’t understand because he has like 20 friends at school and he’s super popular. My whole class practically hates me i don’t even know why because im a quiet kid and I just sit there.. I really want to do something about my situation but I don’t know what to do. My brothers always blabbering on and it makes my confidence go down even more. I don’t even think my dads aware of my mental problems, I know my mom is because I always talk to her about it, but whenever I do she always starts talking about her mental health. My brother also has some sort of disability my mum thinks he has ADHD so she usually takes his side because he can’t control it or something and he also has severe anger issues. He rlly needs to do something about it! Once he practically tore apart his whole room- it’s as scary. My mum and brother always argue and my brother always talks about how useless life is and how he is going to commit suicide when he goes financially unstable as an adult. I don’t think Thai negativity is very good in my life but I can’t control him. My mum is currently at japan because her Uncle passed away because he had stage 4 cancer of the pancreas. In a couple of days my brother is going to a different state to see a concert with his friend and my min will be back by then, I’m honestly to sad because I couldn’t go to neither of the places! I have to stay here in this place I absolutely HATE. Ah I wish I could move to japan, people are so respectable there and have good manners and care for other people (most ppl in Japan not everyone though) my min said when my brother graduates we might move there!!! Please give me advice on my school situation!!

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Friendship problems replies: 2

Panic and parents replies: 3

Twice exceptionality - autism and 'giftedness' replies: 1

It feels like such a miserable time to be alive replies: 4

Can't bring myself to get out of bed. replies: 3

Year 12 ruined me replies: 3

Anger Issues? replies: 1

School problems replies: 2