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Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies

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Hi! Just thought I’d make a post with some tips for study. I know this is something we can all struggle with. These are all suggestions so feel free to take them or leave them! Hope they help! If you only remember one thing, let it be this: You are important. Your grades don’t define you. (support) Studying can feel isolating but know you’re not alone! Reach out – and find or make friends that can support you along the way. If you’re having trouble finding some friends, join some local communities or clubs! They have lots at Uni’s and even stuff like open days are great ways to meet new people and find out what’s happening. Study groups can also be a great way to meet people and stay motivated. Also remind yourself why you’re doing this; inspirational wallpapers or quotes can be super inspiring. Remember the saying about the oxygen mask? If you can’t take care of yourself first studying will be harder. You are important. You know the drill - water, food, exercise, sleep. Try to stay calm. Stuff that might be able to help include mindfulness, breathing exercises, colouring in, going for walks, journaling, listening to music… If you’re struggling – reach out. See a therapist. Talk to your student counsellor. If you need help, don’t be afraid to ask for it. Also lots of Universities and TAFE offer disability services – which includes conditions like Depression and Anxiety. (study) Find the right study space for you. Maybe that’s in your room, or a coffee shop, or the library. Some people find that noise helps; other people not so much. If you like particular kinds of noise, you can find ‘coffee shop’ noise or ‘rain sounds’ to help concentrate. Make a plan. It helps to do it often so it becomes a habit. Anytime you get a due date, write it down. Maybe you could use a diary, planner, bullet journal or an app. I find the 30/30 App helpful - study for a bit and then break for a bit. You can also get add-on’s for your computer to block sites like Facebook if you find them too distracting. Find out what study technique works for you. Do you like cue cards? Mind maps? Colour coding? Does highlighting stuff help you remember? Charts, maps, diagrams? Recorded lectures? Goals! These are so important – not just writing down deadlines but rewarding yourself for meeting them. Even making smaller goals like ‘read two pages from a textbook’ can help. Break it down into bite size pieces, and don’t forget to reward yourself after!

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I feel so trapped :/

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People see me as a happy joyful person, but I just want to live like everyone else... I feel like I can’t be myself anymore, it’s as if my parents are holding me back from being who I really am. I stay in my room for alone time and all I get out of it is a lecture about how unproductive I am and how “there’s nothing I should be sad about” I miss how I lived before. Now everything is so hard to the point where I just cry for no reason

Overly Worried about my Grim Prospect Future, Beyond the Days of my Parent's

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I'm worried about my Future everyday I have No Standard Driver's Licence I may be Restricted Beyond Ideal and Need (I don't know how to Apply for Jobs Online) (Or what or which Is the most effective way In Applying) I have No Direction for Ideal Manageable Job Occupations, or which Job Industries I like I have No Dream Ambition for my Life TAFE offers nothing, maybe only Just One Course that I'd be Interested In, But I don't want to pursue something for the sake of It without being sure UNIVERSITY has never been for me or of Interest (That's a guaranteed NO) I have No Supportive Friends I have No Spouse or Partner I don't know how to Pay Bills or Rent If I ever need a Accommodation, I wouldn't get a Rental Property If I haven't been Working for at least 6 Months at least, and without a Full Time Job I couldn't afford Rent, Especially In Melbourne, Australia *My Father Is a Bill Payer and only that, He Is a Absent and Selfish who doesn't care or think about my Future and Problems, and deeply would prefer me not living here, at Home *My Mother loves me Un conditionally but she can be Vauge and doesn't know what's coming next (I don't know If she wants to forget about It) because she would find It distressing

feeling down from flopping exams

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Hi everyone, Recently i just did my trials and i didn’t prepare for them as well as i could (probably going to get marks around 50-60%). I feel so mad at myself for not studying earlier or preparing well and i’m also feeling extremely burnt out. I really want to get an ATAR of 85-90 and i don’t know if it’s still possible. Feeling really lost and unmotivated right now My averages for my subjects are 75 for english, 70 for maths, 80 for bio, 87 for business, 85 for geo and 60 for chem (thinking about dropping it) Would anyone have any advice or thoughts? Thanks

Isolation is getting too much

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Hi internet, These last few weeks have really not been great. I thought that since I was already socially isolated this lockdown would be nothing new, but this is just getting unbearable. No friends, no siblings, no pets, no extra-curricular activities - that's how it was before the pandemic. All I had were my university classes. Now even that tiny morsel of social interaction is gone, every class replaced by ridiculous zoom sessions where every student is muted and invisible. I don't think I have spoken to another person since March, and I don't remember the last time I could name a friend. Lately I have been having this overwhelming sensation of heaviness and a terrible pinching feeling that continually distracts me from any work I try to do. I spend way too long in bed but always feel tired regardless, and I can't seem to find an appetite even for my favourite foods. I just feel so lethargic and miserable that I want to sink into the ground and close my eyes forever. Before this lockdown my social isolation would make me lonely but had never affected my productivity or health. Now it is just impossible to ignore and I really can't shake this feeling of overwhelming misery. I have considered treatment but since I am not self-harming or suicidal, I am not sure that a doctors visit during a pandemic is justified. The main thing I want to ask this forum is whether there is anyone else in this situation, whether they know how to get out of it.

I feel like it will just be my parents and I forever

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Growing up I really struggled to keep positive friendships and be part of teams because of self esteem issues . If I wasn’t perfect at something I would talk my way out of it and feel it is hard to get any passions because I am so consumed by wanting to impress others. I am extremely close with my parents and spend all my time with them because of my inability to form strong friendships . I find it hard to socialise because I talk to my parents about everything instead of talking to others my own age and our relationship has gotten really toxic because I project my anger of not being able to make friends onto them. I want to build myself as a person but hate joining groups as I feel I will be rejected and made fun of, this means I have no where to build connections outside of school. I am lost and have no idea who I am. I am so self absorbed I find it hard to concentrate on other things such as school work and my friends issues and am constantly comparing my lack of friendships and relationships to others. Should I move out of home and go to boarding school to not rely on my parents? How can I stop being so sensitive and just start forming lasting friendships I feel as though I have tried so many different groups and sports but none stick.

I'm feeling horribly isolated because of who and where I am.

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Hey all. I'm sorry if this post isn't great or formatted correctly or something like that. I've never been very good at forums. After proofreading I've noticed it's a poorly paragraphed and inconsistent ramble and stream of thoughts more than anything but I haven't slept and I'm too lazy to correct things and gather my thoughts. I don't even know what I want out of this post. I'm a 17 year old bi transgender girl and I've had low functioning depression and anxiety for roughly half of my life. I feel so isolated and trapped in my town. The closest transgender support group to me has not only disbanded, but they were transmasculine exclusively. All of my friends are cisgendered and straight, and while I trust them and love them so much, I can't properly tell them how my situation is making me feel, despite me being out to all of them and them all being supportive. They also all live more than two hours away from me, since my mum and I have had to move constantly because of landlords selling houses. I've tried to find other gender-diverse Australians, and when I do, they're all in other states (QLD and VIC are the main two I've noticed) or the ones who are in NSW are all from Sydney or much older than me, moreso than what I'm comfortable with, or both. I missed my last psychiatrist appointment because I slept through it and couldn't get out of bed. Now we don't have enough money for me to have another one. I didn't really have a "teenagehood". Despite being friends with most of my schoolmates when I was in school, I felt like I wasn't much more than a classtime joke-slinger. None of my school friends invited me to the nights out they had, and when I made plans outside of school, everyone ghosted me or cancelled at the last second (except for one of my best friends). And while I know that high-school relationships are mostly superficial and almost never go anywhere - I hate that I never had one because of who I am. idk what exactly I want out of this post - maybe to know that someone like me exists near me? For just once in my life I want someone to hold me and actually care for me.

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I have recently been involved in a unhealthy household amongst other young people where things escalated beyond reason so I moved from that environment back to my other accommodation and we recently had some visitors who I use to live with and they were nasty to me then so I kept my distance this time around. On of the girls that I live with was seeing this person and did things in which I do not condone in and I found it disrespectful for them to being doing those things within a living environment where others had not been exposed to it. I spoke to this girl about the issue and she addressed that she didn't like to hear I didn't like this person and was quite defensive about the issue and we didn't see eye to eye, I also discussed other issues with her about other people and where things stood, this has since been turned around and twisted and I have been accused of lying. Thursday whilst I was at work I was informed if I come into contact with anyone traveling to Sydney or coming from Sydney I can be asked to remain away from work for 3-5 days to prevent the passing of the COVID-19. I emailed the head resident and spoke to him about my concerns with certain people traveling to and from the area of Sydney, he responded and they are in the process of getting a form out to protect everyone. Friday evening this same girl came and went off at me accusing me of ratting her out because she was planning on traveling to Sydney and I simply said my job is in the line and she then used other information of which was disclosed to her in private against me and tried to belittle me and bully me out if the dorm living. J have since had two panic attacks and am feeling quite fearful for my wellbeing

Feeling Stressed

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I have been feeling recently really anxious with no reason. I can't really relax, or go to sleep without music and meditation. If I don't go without music, meditation or drawing for more than a few hours then i start to have panic attacks where I feel really stressed and something bad is about to happen. It feels like something is heavy on my chest and I can't breathe properly. Also some intense types of music trigger these attacks too. I am coping okay with everything in quarantine so I don't know what I am stressed about. The stress is making me break out too. I am just getting really tired of being on edge all the time and I don't know what to do. Does anyone have similar problems like this? -Cassie

Emotional detachment?

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hi, so I'm not sure what to call it but for majority of my life I have struggled to feel love. I know instinctively that my family and friends love me. but I don't feel anything. When I think about the words and their meaning I feel empty like I'm missing something. This ultimately causes me to feel quite different when I hear about my friends talking about people they are attracted too or how much they love their family. I believe this is what caused me to feel disconnected and distant from the world, I dont feel like I belong, if I stay with a group of people for too long I begin to feel emotional pain. throughout my life I have especially struggled with knowing the value of myself as a person, I dont feel I have any self worth. thus I naturally hate myself. every time someone acknowledges me, every time I receive complements or even when the people closest to me say they care for me, I can't help but feel as though they only say so out of pity. like its their obligation to say so. every time I just hate myself more and feel ever so more disconnected from people. its hard to open up to my family because I've tried 3 times now and each time they claim they understand and yet they still treat me the same, they belittle my issues whilst complaining about how hard their life is. it makes me angry because having my value ignored hurts even more than accepting my own irrelevance. is it possible to have emotional numbness for a specific emotion? or do I have something else entirely? do I even have a problem? am I just making something out of nothing? thanks for listening

Born a Sadist?

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Troy here. Since Kindergarten, I have seemingly derived pleasure out of other's physical pain. I had a female friend then, and she always seemed to get hurt. I remember feeling some guilt in these instances, which makes me wonder if I was inflicting the pain covertly; my memorys are hazy. When we were to draw ourselves in the career of our choice, I strangely drew my self as a creepy doctor with a circular saw standing over a busty woman on a surgery table. I was not abused as a child, and my parents/teachers didn't seem to notice. I would go on my slap my older brother across the face with a plastic frog and laugh hysterically for no reason shortly thereafter. From anecdotes relayed to me in my teens, I was adored by my older sister's female friends ad nauseum; I was the envy of mothers--a cute kid. But wouldn't this just make me a narcissist? Nowadays, at 19, I have seemingly dropped the intense sadism I have felt towards teenage girls when I was ages 16-18, but occasional and breif episodes will occur when I am intensly attracted to a particilar female. I hope that I will cease to experience intense surges of aggression when coming into contact with teenage females. However, I am bewhildered as to how I became a sadist in the first place. Are my genetics to blame? Does being adored by females in childhood constitute an environment condusive to the development of sadism?

Eeep! When study is overwhelming! - Tips, ideas and coping strategies replies: 51

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I feel so trapped :/ replies: 3

Overly Worried about my Grim Prospect Future, Beyond the Days of my Parent's replies: 2

feeling down from flopping exams replies: 2

Isolation is getting too much replies: 2

I feel like it will just be my parents and I forever replies: 4

I'm feeling horribly isolated because of who and where I am. replies: 2

New to this please excuse the length replies: 3

Feeling Stressed replies: 2

Emotional detachment? replies: 3

Born a Sadist? replies: 2