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My "ex" has moved on...

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I am an 18-year-old female. I met this guy who is also my age on a dating app a year ago. He was great. He said how he thought we would "last" and he told me he wanted to say hi to my parents when he picked me up from my place which he did. Everythin... View more

I am an 18-year-old female. I met this guy who is also my age on a dating app a year ago. He was great. He said how he thought we would "last" and he told me he wanted to say hi to my parents when he picked me up from my place which he did. Everything about him was amazing. He ghosted me two weeks later and said "he wasn't ready" for a relationship. He would still talk to me afterward and led me on (never initiating to meet up, ignoring me e.t.c.). I ended up ghosting him but then when I failed my driver's test at the time, I started to speak to him. We ended up arguing as he thought I would post indirect things on Facebook about him. In all honesty, some posts were and some weren't. At this point, I was ready to move on. I ended up passing the test a month later, I ended up apologising to him for "closure" (so stupid) and just felt content to move on. However, on my friend's birthday, we went to this club and I bumped into him. This resulted in a hot and heavy makeout. He was drunk but said he "wanted to see me again". He almost had a fight with my friend's cousin because I ran off with him to another area of the club that night. My friend told him to never contact me again if he was only going to waste my time. He ghosted me after saying "when will I see you again?" All my efforts went down the drain. I find out a month later, the day after we saw each other. That he matched with my best friend on the dating app (she matched back out of curiosity) and he started talking to her. She didn't want to tell me when it happened because she didn't want me to be hurt. She told him we were friends and mentioned that he was not nice to me while dating and he replied, saying that I was "twisting" things. He followed me on Instagram a few months later yet we did not talk. I found out yesterday through his mate's facebook page that he just got into a relationship. I have broken down, because he was not ready for me. He also blocked me on Instagram, so I can't even see what his girlfriend looks like as it has not been revealed who he is with. I feel worthless, he consumed my happiness pretty much all year. He has made me questioned my sanity, my existence. He was different (and cooler) to what I used to know, all I did was crave him. I feel like nothing because of the way things have turned out. I need help.

my story

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hi, i’m abbey. it’s been a couple of years since i’ve started to feel like i’m not myself anymore. i’m extremely insecure and put myself down to the point where i blame every problem on myself. i have a boyfriend, he is supportive and loving but does... View more

hi, i’m abbey. it’s been a couple of years since i’ve started to feel like i’m not myself anymore. i’m extremely insecure and put myself down to the point where i blame every problem on myself. i have a boyfriend, he is supportive and loving but doesn’t know how to handle his emotions and sometimes pushes me away making me feel lonely and vulnerable towards harsh thoughts. i put a lot on the line for him and i love him with all my heart. i struggle with making new friends because i over think things and assume people dislike me. i just want to know i’m not alone and i hope others know how it feels to be mis treated and feel unloved although i am

overwhelmed

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I am really struggling with anxiety at the moment. mostly because of going back to school after having trouble with my friends. my problem is sleep. at the night time is mainly where my anxiety comes out. because it’s just me and my thoughts in my he... View more

I am really struggling with anxiety at the moment. mostly because of going back to school after having trouble with my friends. my problem is sleep. at the night time is mainly where my anxiety comes out. because it’s just me and my thoughts in my head. I can’t sleep because my head just goes crazy. the way of calming myself down is listening to music or just watching movies and stuff to just distract myself from my thoughts. other wise my head goes wild and i get into a bad state and have kind of a panic attack. but i do a lot of sport and sleep is even more important especially with my past with injuries. so i’m practically staying up past midnight most nights on my phone trying to get out of my own head. but then i get more anxious about not getting enough sleep and being tired and whatnot. anyway i’m just stuck in a vicious cycle that i’m not too sure how to get out of.

Comedown Issues

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This may sound minor but I wanted to get it out there, Recently I have been experiencing extreme comedowns after enjoyable events in my life. Three events in particular have really impacted me. 1. A couple of years ago I went to visit my family in th... View more

This may sound minor but I wanted to get it out there, Recently I have been experiencing extreme comedowns after enjoyable events in my life. Three events in particular have really impacted me. 1. A couple of years ago I went to visit my family in the UK for a few weeks on my own. This was a pretty monumental step for me, and I enjoyed it thoroughly. In fact, apart from coming home to see my direct relatives I had very little reason to want to return at all. After coming back I fell into deep depression for a good few months and struggled with returning to the boring school life I had left behind for three weeks. I'm sure everyone experiences post-holiday blues to some degree but it was to the point where I was crying in bed at night. 2. I entered a youth rock competition with my band and we did very well. It was a pretty large competition and certainly the largest crowd we have ever performed in front of. We performed our set almost perfectly and I came down from the stage in a state I can only describe as ecstasy. We also made friends with a couple of other acts. In the days following the competition I began to feel more and more depressed that it was over, that I would have to wait another year to enter again. Once again, this seriously impacted my life and made me feel unmotivated and directionless when starting new things. 3. Recently I attended my college band camp which I was sure I would not enjoy. Surprisingly, I made some great friends and had some great laughs. Unfortunately, all of these friends were from my school's sister school and It is highly likely I wont see most of them for another year. I enjoyed my time with them more than my regular friends and now that I am back I am starting to question whether I am in a productive relationship as well as feeling the same lack of motivation as before. Once again, I know these sound minor but they are starting to ruin my mood in enjoyable situations. I often find myself consciously making an effort to enjoy certain events or feeling sad when they happen because 'I'll never experience this again'. I'm finding it extremely difficult to live in the moment and enjoy life as this feeling is beginning to dominate my life. Thankfully I am not on drugs, from this experience I think I would fall apart on them. If you have any advice please let me know. Thanks.

22 years old, male, massively sexually frustrated and depressed

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Hey everyone; for the last few months, and on many prior occasions, concerns about sexual contact, loneliness etc have been like a leaden weight in my mind. I'll put down a few connected specific thoughts and some questions, in the hopes of getting s... View more

Hey everyone; for the last few months, and on many prior occasions, concerns about sexual contact, loneliness etc have been like a leaden weight in my mind. I'll put down a few connected specific thoughts and some questions, in the hopes of getting some advice, any general thoughts, and just maybe giving support to others who are going through the same sorts of struggles. A snippet of context for you: I'm a 22 year old male. I have severe depression, anxiety and OCD. I've always had these but things really kicked up a notch or ten in late high school and uni. I stopped uni after a year, and for the few years since I've lived with my parents and been on various meds with very limited success. I don't usually have all 3 main conditions at once. Right now the stand out is depression and it's mainly connected to being very sexually frustrated - I've had two sexual experiences, firstly with a friend (she wanted a relationship with me, I didn't feel the same way but she was the first non-family girl I'd ever talked to (I was 20 then) and I was totally clueless). Second was with my first girlfriend, now ex, early last year. All I can think about recently, literally for large sections of each day, is how much I crave physical intimacy, how lonely I am (I only have a couple of friends, old school guys), how insanely jealous I am of other young people who seem to be able to get sex whenever they want with whoever they want, how unattractive/inadequate I feel, how low (wait, let's be honest, non existent) my self esteem is etc etc. And a surging storm cell of unanswered questions: how do other young people get sex so often, so easily? Where do they even have sex given that most still live at their parents' houses at my age?? (that one really confuses me!) I've gotten the impression that most girls these days say they don't want meaningless sexual encounters and don't like guys who are pushy wanting sex, yet I also get the impression that everyone (including said girls) is having sex all the time - how do I possibly reconcile that?? I'm an odd type of guy in that I'd preference genuine intimacy over quick hookups (honestly I wouldn't be against the latter but have never had an opportunity). I'm introverted, nerdy, value sincere, deep conversation, loyalty, commitment, not really a party person - not really attractive things at all! The cultural standard of having lots of sex by my age, the jealously, confusion, longing - is even a hug too much to ask for??

Anxiety overwhelms any desire to get help

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I have been having problems with anxiety and depression for years now. In the last few months I was able to get onto headspace to get some help, because that didn't involve talking to anyone except by webchat. It's gotten to the point now where they'... View more

I have been having problems with anxiety and depression for years now. In the last few months I was able to get onto headspace to get some help, because that didn't involve talking to anyone except by webchat. It's gotten to the point now where they're suggesting I go to doctor or GP or something and get better help but I can't do it. Just thinking about it gives me panic attacks. It's so bad, like there's so much wrong with my life and how I feel but I'm too scared to do anything about it. I know I need help and I want it, but I just don't see it actually happening because of my anxiety. I don't know how to get past that anxiety even just for a little bit.

Anxiety from parents

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Hi there, for about 5 years now i have been suffering from anxiety from emotional bullying from my mother, my father is never around for her because he works all week, and she is hurting because of this, she has outburts which can be 1 a month to 1 a... View more

Hi there, for about 5 years now i have been suffering from anxiety from emotional bullying from my mother, my father is never around for her because he works all week, and she is hurting because of this, she has outburts which can be 1 a month to 1 a day. And she is constantly yelling and screaming to me and telling me how horrible and selfish i am, but i have stuck by her all my life when my sisters have left and hurt her. I do anything she asks and i never say no i am always here for her and it hurts so much, once she has thrown my xmas/birthday presents to her in my face and said i dont want them, and has been so angry at dad before she has pushed me in the pantry and left me there to cry from horror and now i have had a boyfriend for 1 year now and she is blaming everything on him to get to me and making me feel bad for leaving her one night a week so i can stay at his. The other day i took hold of my anxiety and stood up for myself i have never felt so proud in my life until a couple mins after i have been told i have changed since i have had a boyfriend and she yells over the top of me when i want to have an adult discussion with her, little does she know i was sick of her emotional bullying for 5 years and wanted it to stop. she comes up with the littlest things to put me down and hurt me and i get anxiety so bad because i just want everyone to get along, i went to the doctors with her a couple of years ago to talk about anxiety as i had lost 10kg in a week and the dr informed me i could only go on anti depressants and my mother shot up and said no! If you have a problem you speak to me! , and i could never do that because she believes what she wants to believe and never tales what i have to say in account, i feel helpless and if i move in with my boyfriends ill only get thrown in my fave how i am abandoning my family. And i feel like there is no other way out than oblivion. Please help me

Staying Stagnet

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What do I feel like ? Sad ? Lost ? Lazy? Confused, frustrated, angry, annoyed , disappointed, secure ? Loved ?? Left out ? Betrayed yet nothing has been done. Childish throwing a little tantrum. Pissed off because life isn't great yet I'm living comf... View more

What do I feel like ? Sad ? Lost ? Lazy? Confused, frustrated, angry, annoyed , disappointed, secure ? Loved ?? Left out ? Betrayed yet nothing has been done. Childish throwing a little tantrum. Pissed off because life isn't great yet I'm living comfortably. Hi I'm A-non, im a 21 ex apprentice metal fabricator (NO I WILL NOT TOUCH A TRADE) who lost his job a year ago, spent the next 8 months after that hiding myself in the comfort of myself pity sadness and depression while building bad dissasociative behaviour and then rebuilding my self confidence over that same period just to get a job. Lost it, but now I'm confident enough to normally act like me and go into public which i was scared of doing for 6 months. Had a neverous break down with close family at friends at my 21st (yaaayy what an amazing 21st, no I didn't have a party, my family and friends came last minute to try cheer me up aha.....) that was kinda a turning point for me but yet even so this year felt so shit I still feel like life has so much more worse in stored for me and I don't know if I'm ready for any of it ( NO one isn't) I'm an emotional person at heart when I say I care I do and when I say I don't care I still care, especially with people I dare call friends. I may not be the best person myself but, I sure do try a lot harder then most I know I have tried harder than most, I'm pretty realistic and consistently talking to myself and worrying about the things I do, but I've gotten to a point where now I'm just shallow, empty, transparent and unmotivated, you could pretty much say that when you need me that's not me. I'm sad and I want it to stop so can I just stop it?? Thanks for reading this guys, none of this Makes sense but it's better than letting my friends and family how I'm really going because they frustrate me and make me happy but in the end I'm really just Exghausted with life and I'm only 21.

i need help

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Idk how to start this but I am an 18 year old with autism and adhd along with depression, learning disablities and anxiety. These abnormalities are ruining my satisfaction with life and I'm always depressed. I find it hard to understand other people ... View more

Idk how to start this but I am an 18 year old with autism and adhd along with depression, learning disablities and anxiety. These abnormalities are ruining my satisfaction with life and I'm always depressed. I find it hard to understand other people and their emotions and I usually avoid socializing with others because of this. My facebook recently got terminated which made me go into a manic state because that's one of the only places I feel accepted, I'm part of a weird side of facebook where nobody knows each other irl and we all share "edgy" and esoteric memes and most of are mentally ill, kinda like the dark web of fb. I enjoy being a part of this tight knit community since I feel they understand me better than normal people do. I've had accounts deleted before and sometimes it's been months after I made an account and it's usually entirely random. I also struggle with the effects of my ADHD and I'll usually walk for hours on end or pace around my unit, I find it hard to concentrate on anything and I struggled at school because of this, to the point I ended up dropping out. My medications don't seem to help much and I'm too scared to tell my psychiatrist to change them and every visit I just end up listening to his recommendations without any input of my own I feel so disconected from everyone due to my autism but also my esoteric and bizarre taste in online humor that most people who aren't a part of the side of the internet I usually dwell wouldn't quite get. This sounds silly but the internet is a very large part of my self identity and I wouldn't be the same person without I'm also a very self conscious and insecure person about every aspect of myself an I hate being criticised for my actions and the insecurities are so severe to the point where I avoid leaving the house during the day and end up staying home and sleeping What I'm basically asking for is some advice on how to cope with having disorders that make me very different from other people and live my life the best way possible

dealing with unpleasant memories

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Hi, I do not want to say any specific things, but I have some unpleasant memories. These memories make me feel guilty, scared, panicked and drives me crazy. It's been almost a year since the incidents that gave me these memories, I'm fine at most tim... View more

Hi, I do not want to say any specific things, but I have some unpleasant memories. These memories make me feel guilty, scared, panicked and drives me crazy. It's been almost a year since the incidents that gave me these memories, I'm fine at most times, but whenever I remember, I feel out of breath and scared. When I am distracted I feel normal, but whenever I'm alone in the dark or when I see something that relates to the incident I get triggered and feel horrible. I do not have suitable people to talk to about this, and I am not sure if it would even help. I have friends who has the same experience, but they do not seem troubled at all, while I'm here feeling super guilty and panicked whenever I remember about the incidents. So I cannot talk to them. I do not know what to do, simply distract myself? But I cannot distract myself forever, and I cannot forget about anything that happened. I do not know how to deal with these memories, please give me some advice.

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i need help

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