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Suddenly feel insufferably lonely

On The Road
Community Member

this is how I feel right now, not sure if this is the best place to post this...

these kinds of intrusive thoughts are scary, they are not the facts but they are linked to reality. Because I'm really lonely.

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blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello On The Road !

It is a perfect place to post your thread topic

Feeling lonely can make us feel isolated not to mention the effect on our self worth You have created an excellent thread topic as it hasnt been discussed as a thread topic for a long time

Sometimes psychs mention its beneficial to have a small circle of friends (5) that we can talk to when we are feeling this way. Thats easily said as many people dont have a circle of friends they can talk to when very lonely

Can I ask if you have one or two people that you can confide in when you have these feelings of emptiness?

I hear you loud and clear OTR as I feel the same sometimes

my kind thoughts

Paul

Karen0901
Community Member

I feel you. I avoid people because of anxiety and trauma and it means I don't have any friends. Sometimes this makes me very lonely, isolated and feel like I'm not worthy of attention from others. That I don't fit in society.

I have my family though. So I'm lucky.

I think the best thing you can do is contact family. If you don't have any, find others that are also lonely. People are usually very understanding. You could join some type of social activity such as a sport or some other group based on a hobby you might have. If your not in a relationship, you could try dating.

geoff
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello On The Road, intrusive can be crippling, but you need to challenge them, ask yourself, could you actually do any of them and what would be the consequences if you did.

They are thoughts not actions and what you are thinking are you able to mention this to who is involved in these thoughts.

Take care.

Geoff.

MikeC
Community Member

I am feeling this too. Although I do have some friends and family I am living in an isolated area and spend much of my time alone. Also my energy levels are so low I am barely able to complete the simple tasks of life and have no energy to get out and do fun activities or meet people via social groups. I don't feel comfortable talking to my friends and family about it because I don't see them very often and I am not motivated to talk on the phone. I just feel like I am plodding along in life hoping for some more energy in the future but not knowing how/when that will occur.

Any help/thoughts would be appreciated.

blondguy
Champion Alumni
Champion Alumni

Hello MikeC and On The Road for the excellent thread topic!

Welcome to the forums Mike

I joined the forums back in 2016 when I was mess (depression..anxiety) and after being on here (when I can) it has been a very helpful place for myself

There are many gentle people on the forums that can be here for you Mike....The forums are a safe and non judgmental place for all of us to post

It takes huge strength to post Mike....you are strong...It took me 2 weeks to post as I was super nervous

my kind thoughts

Paul

Hi Paul, thanks for the reply,🙂 I agree that a small circle of close friends is ideal. This is probably the soul mate we are looking for. I remember those American sitcoms ( Friends, How I Met Your Mother, etc) I watched, which usually consist of a small group of friends.
I don't think I have one or two close friends that I can confide in. I can talk with people in general and sometimes the conversations could go deeper. But still, It is really hard for me to open up most of the time.

Hi Karen0901, thanks for sharing your experience🙂. I can resonate with you A LOT that anxiety and trauma have a huge impact on socialising. There have been many people I met (in school, at work, in travel) that told me something like “you are actually quite a friendly and decent person you just need to put your heart out more often”. Lol it is not that easy. I’m glad that family can be behind your back, I can talk with my family regularly but we are not as closed as a perfect family should look like.

Hi Geoff, I find that normally distracting myself is useful. Binge watching shows, playing games, or going out. But there are prerequisites for doing this: the shows that I watch were light-hearted, comedic, or not that serious, better not watch those that make you laugh while you are watching it but keep you thinking too much (or make you feel sad) lately. The places I go out for were lively buzzing CBD areas, where the noise, the crowds, the things that keep you distracted. If we went to the remote beaches alone, we probably would feel even more lonely.

Hi MikeC,
Thanks for being here, this is a good place to start🙂. Living in a remote area has its pro and cons, it is definitely not easy. Considering your low energy level, I may suggest you contact your GP and talk about this. Plus search on this website “get out of a rut” or just “rut”, and you may find some people with similar situations who asked for advice here. You may find some valuable advice from posts. Please feel free to share more detail if you are comfortable. You are more than welcome to start your own thread, we are here to listen 🙂