Really don’t know where to begin….
Just another thing Eilidh Girl you must be such a wonderful supportive wife and I’m sure your husband does appreciate having you by his side to support him.
Can I ask what do you do for your self?
I think it’s great you have psychology support.
Im also glad you have found our forums to be helpful.
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Hello Eilidh Girl, a warm welcome to the forums.
Sometimes when we've been in a long marriage or a relationship then the help we try to do for our partner/spouse isn't taken seriously and maybe pushed under the carpet, in other words after 21 years of being married any help you offer your husband may not be taken as such and be ignored, which could mean you are then going to suffer as well, which I've seen happen many times before.
Can I ask you if his CPTSD has any relation to his chronic health conditions, this may help us learn about the consequences of his situation?
Maybe you need to ask yourself if the psychologist is addressing all your issues.
Thanks so much Geoff. It’s a comfort to read your response. I have started working with a new psychiatrist and psychologist this past year and although I am feeling both are a good fit, the work is slow of course and sometimes I just want to reach out and talk to others who might understand.
My husbands cptsd stems from violence in his family home to a number of near death experiences because of chronic health conditions he developed as a young man.
Thanks again Geoff for writing to me.
Hello Eilidh Girl, lovely to hear back from you.
' Maybe if I’d looked after myself better I’d cope better', that's what we always aim for, but at times and on many occasions this just isn't possible because somewhere and/or somehow we are still struggling on a specific point or in general, and can easily change from one day to another, so when we talk with the counsellors, a problem may be raised that's just happened, but what happened yesterday may be avoided because of lack of time.
Talking with others, there is no rush to discuss these problems or what you want to say about yourself, so this is where you are able to relate much better to your situation, but we still need the help and guidance from a qualified person.
We are here to listen to what you want to say and please don't be afraid as we have all struggled ourselves.
My Best thoughts.
How are you today?
You are a remarkable woman you have put so much care and love into your husband…… maybe you have forgotten to give yourself some self care and love it’s never too late to start now 😊
What do you enjoy doing? Maybe you could start to do something nice for yourself…
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