Wellcome to our forums.
Im sorry all of this has happened and that you feel the way you are feeling.
I believe that the things that are meant for you won’t pass you by.
Maybe the person you dated wasn’t the right person for you and the jobs you applied for weren’t the jobs for you.
Don’t give up because the right one for you could be just around the corner.
Im sorry you had a relapse but please remember that this doesn’t define who you are as a person.
Stand up tall and keep soldering on…….
You are wanted and loved more than you would ever know.
I'm really sorry to hear you're dealing with so many challenges right now, I can sense you're hurting a lot and that is understandable.
Firstly, I just want to say 8 years sober is something to be extremely proud of, and while you may have had a slip up, remember that recovery is not linear and you have proven to yourself before you are strong enough to get back to where you want to be so you can do it again. Every time we fall we get stronger - and you are incredibly strong for all you have faced and achieved so far.
If you are comfortable sharing, could I ask if you have family or some close friends in your life for support right now?
I know what it's like to have an inner voice telling you that you're not good enough. But that voice is a liar. First of all, eight years sober is a hell of an achievement, and one mistake doesn't mean you've failed, it's just a bump in the road. Don't let it defeat you.
Second, the person you liked wanted to be your friend. Friends are also precious, can you perhaps navigate your feelings to accept that friendship and support?
There's no need to feel guilty, life is hard and we all have struggles. Be kind to yourself. It's up to you if you feel like dating. I dated for six months of last year, and I didn't have any terrible experiences, I mostly made friends, but I certainly found you need to push yourself out there and accept you will meet a number of people who aren't right for you before you meet someone who is. Then I randomly met someone I was insanely compatible with. I am a very strange person, if that can happen to me, it can happen to you.....
No matter what, you matter. You are wanted. You were 'friendzoned', that means someone likes you and wants to be your friend.
hi and welcome.
that sounds like a lot to go through in a short period of time and the feelings you expressed seem normal.
If I might be able to pose an alternate possibility on being friend zoned ... I wonder if it is possible the other person was not ready for any sort of relationship? It can easy to point the finger at ourselves?
anyway, I just want you to know I am listening if you want to chat some more.