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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Rob_1994 Hello
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Hello, I've opened this account a while back but this is my first time interacting here. I'm not very good at explaining what my issues are and unironically that's one of them. What I do know is that I need help with so many things and letting them o... View more

Hello, I've opened this account a while back but this is my first time interacting here. I'm not very good at explaining what my issues are and unironically that's one of them. What I do know is that I need help with so many things and letting them out may take time for me. Though I can say is that I can't find reasons to stay motivated and all of the simplest tasks feel like an effort to me. I'm hoping I can get something out of this, I've been in a pool of despair for as long as I can remember and I need reason to carry on with my life. I look forward to meeting new people here.

Teddy Bear Feeling Helpless
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Hi there, This is the first time posting on here, but I feel desperate. My husband has depression and anxiety and it has slowly been getting worse in the last 10 years but only really noticing it more in the last 2 years since he retired and Covid ha... View more

Hi there, This is the first time posting on here, but I feel desperate. My husband has depression and anxiety and it has slowly been getting worse in the last 10 years but only really noticing it more in the last 2 years since he retired and Covid hasn't helped either. He has pushed away most of his friends and some family, but the most upsetting thing is communication has broken down between his eldest daughter and himself, whom he has always been very close to while she was growing up, but since she got married things have not been good and he cannot tolerate her husband. He has been to four psychiatrists over the years to try and get help, but it is so hard to find one that he can connect with and feel like they understand him. He also was seeing a counsellor but that hasn't helped either. Now his daughter has had enough and he just feels this barrier between them and he gets anxiety and just wants to melt away when he actually does see her. It is so sad and hard for me to watch him shut down and I try really hard to support him and let him know that I am here for him but he just shuts me out too. I am so worried about him and I want him to try and get help again but he doesn't want to. He stopped eating and drinking this time and I have managed to make him eat a bit and have some fluids, and I thought he was starting to come out of the depression , but today he is shutting down again. I feel like I am walking on eggshells most of the time, I leave him alone because I know he wants to be very quiet, but its so hard, I feel like I have lost my husband and he is just an empty shell. He said he doesn't want to kill himself but he just doesn't want to be here anymore, that's why he stops eating and drinking hoping he will fade away. Usually when he has a downer it lasts 3-4 days but this has been going on for about 8 days now. I just feel helpless and not sure what to do anymore. Just wondering if anyone else is going through the same thing and how they cope.

Positive_vibes89 Name 3 things that you like about yourself
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During this time of uncertainty with covid and all the lockdowns we have been experiencing lets share some positivity and self love. I will start with my 3 things...... 1. I am caring 2. I am smart 3. I am healthy Your turn!

During this time of uncertainty with covid and all the lockdowns we have been experiencing lets share some positivity and self love. I will start with my 3 things...... 1. I am caring 2. I am smart 3. I am healthy Your turn!

DDDD Email counselling
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Hey everyone, this might be an odd request, but does anyone know of any free counselling services done by email? I sometimes find it hard to express myself, so email would be best for me to communicate my issues. Thank you in advance!

Hey everyone, this might be an odd request, but does anyone know of any free counselling services done by email? I sometimes find it hard to express myself, so email would be best for me to communicate my issues. Thank you in advance!

mandajane Out of control
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Hi my first time here and I’m struggling with panic at present. Just wanted to touch base with people that know how it feels. Thank you

Hi my first time here and I’m struggling with panic at present. Just wanted to touch base with people that know how it feels. Thank you

AnotherSoul Dont know who to reach out or how to get help.
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Hello everyone. First time posting here, not really sure were to start it has always been really hard for me to express what is going inside my mind. As background been in Australia for the last 7 years and can call my self an Aussie now. I have alwa... View more

Hello everyone. First time posting here, not really sure were to start it has always been really hard for me to express what is going inside my mind. As background been in Australia for the last 7 years and can call my self an Aussie now. I have always been alone, I mean even when I was in school didnt really had any close friends, didnt really had a tight family and don’t have any close family other than my fiance. I feel that may be I might be having a persistent depression or dont know if I might be like Asperger or something. I don’t remember the last time I feel fully happy. I dont know how or to whom or what help can I get to actually find out what happen with me. Sometimes, I cannot even sleep well because of being anxious thinking about death and that one day wont open my eyes again and then my heart goes racing and try to stay awake. My birthday is coming in this month and for year of course got no one to celebrate it other than my fiancé or my parents. I dont think I am a bad person, nor a bad friend, but feel like a failure not having friends to care about me or just to talk about stuff. so, my question is, how do I know what is happening with me and how can I get help? Thanks if you reading my message and wish you a good day.

Jojo100 Really worried about my little dog
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Hi everyone I wasn’t sure which section to put this post so hope here is okay. My little dog (Poppy) had an ultrasound today which has shown enlargement of her heart, a leaky valve and basically now has canine congestive heart failure. She has been p... View more

Hi everyone I wasn’t sure which section to put this post so hope here is okay. My little dog (Poppy) had an ultrasound today which has shown enlargement of her heart, a leaky valve and basically now has canine congestive heart failure. She has been put on two medications which hopefully will help her symptoms, but I’m really worried I’m going to lose her. Does anyone else have a dog with similar symptoms and, if so, what has the outcome been? Thank you Jojo

Sophie_M Monthly Forums Update: Reflecting Back on August
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Hi Everyone It’s great to have you a part of the community and we hope you stay connected. For information on a range of topics that support with managing your mental health during the pandemic, check out the Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Serv... View more

Hi Everyone It’s great to have you a part of the community and we hope you stay connected. For information on a range of topics that support with managing your mental health during the pandemic, check out the Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service page, which includes resources on ‘Taking control in uncertain times’, ‘Why staying connected is so important’ and ‘The importance of establishing a routine. If you’re currently experiencing thoughts and feelings that are overwhelming or impacting your daily life, we’d encourage you to speak with a GP or mental health professional. If you’d like some support with finding a suitable health professional in your area, visit the ‘find a professional’ page on our website or check-in with one of the professional mental health counsellors at our Support Service - 1300 22 4636 / https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/get-immediate-support for online chat & email (responses within 24 hours). Community Voices: What are people talking about? Struggling with School I'm not sure how to say this, I find it so hard to write what I'm feeling and going through. I'm going to try, this may sound weird but here I go. I have been feeling down again, being stuck in lockdown has made it hard. I have felt a lot of pressure from school and home, people expect so much of me and I feel I don't live up to their expectations. - Someone-who-sleeps (Read more here) For the last few years I've gradually been loosing motivation to any school work, homework and I hardly study for exams. Now that I'm in year 12 and currently sitting trials, I realize how bad it has gotten. I've been expressing to friends and family that I have lost all motivation but it's getting worse and worse and every strategy that I try to cope with this doesn't work. My lack of motivation is so overpowering that I feel like I'm just watching my life go by but I can't do anything. - Abi_555 (Read more here) I'm a 16-year-old male in year 11, and I've been feeling quite depressed recently, or more than usual, which has made it difficult for me to function as well as I should. I've started CBT and taking antidepressants, but I'm worried that if I keep going at this rate, things will only get worse and I'll fall further behind in school and life. I'm at a loss as to what to do. – DetectivePanda (Read more here) Supporting A Loved One’s Mental Wellbeing What is my role now? I've done all the things i can think of. I've gone through the process of researching and organising therapists more times than I can count, but he needs to talk to them to make the appointment, and hasn't. I've invited him out of the house daily, he doesn't want to go. - Violet12 (Read more here) My friend is currently recovering from a catatonic episode that happened sometime last week, and I was wondering if anybody had any advice or experience in helping someone during these situations? This isn't her first episode, but it is the first to happen around other people and everyone was at a loss for what to do. – sinkingships (Read more here) I have spent this morning reading posts and replies and already feel reassured and not alone any more. I have admired the courage and resilience of those that post and the compassion and wisdom of those that reply. What a safe environment has been created here. My first enquiry is about how to support and encourage my 17 year old daughter after her confronting but apparently helpful experience of a 3 week residential in a youth program. – Belaine (Read more here) Staying Well: Coping During the Coronavirus Pandemic During this lockdown has been hard, COVID in general has been hard. Last year I just lost my father near Christmas from cancer in a different country, I was stuck there for 5 months (pretty much isolated) before I could come back to Sydney. When I got back here I had to undergo quarantine for 2 weeks, terrible experience. At least for a 1 I was able to work and go out; but then lockdown occurred and I feel as though there’s no more hope. I lost another special someone in my life due to cancer and this time I couldn’t attend the funeral. – Magicdragon (Read more here) The words we choose are powerful. Instead of using the expression lock down, I think of it as "The current adjustment period". This expresses to me what we are all going through at the moment. Each one of us is adjusting to life as we have never experienced it before. By placing emphasis on the word "current" it allows me to stay in the now mentally. - Resilience21 (Read more here) I was chatting with some friends the other day in a group text and we were talking about funny things we see on our daily lockdown walks.... Then we had a fab idea to do daily scavenger hunts on our walks and share the photos of it. Obviously, we can't share photos on here, but I thought it might be a bit of a different activity for those States in lockdown. - Gabs_ (Read more here) Meet Beyond Blue’s Newest Community Champions Miz HappyHelper88 Positive_vibes89 sbella02 Banksy92 Read more about the Community Champion's team HERE Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributor for the month of August is ‘The Bro’ ! The Bro has been nominated for their efforts in sparking new discussions across the forums while ensuring others feel appreciated and listened to when sharing their own story. Thank you The Bro! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support BB News/Resources Today on World Suicide Prevention Day, we’re sharing the stories of eight people who found a way through. For more information and to watch everyone’s story, click here Check out Coach Craig’s (our resident Mental Health Clinician) most recent conversation about helpful ways to turn emotional struggles into strength. Feel free to join the conversation here Looking after yourself while supporting someone When you’re constantly worried about the mental health of a loved one, it can be easy to forget about your own wellbeing I know I need support, but how do I ask for it? Talking to someone in a safe space can help you figure out what you’re feeling and work through it.

Chipmunk Hello
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Hi all. newbie here. I decided to join because I just simply need help. I’ve never been good at asking for help or admitting when I need it but it’s to the point that I’m now struggling. I have severe anxiety, severe depression, ptsd and post natal d... View more

Hi all. newbie here. I decided to join because I just simply need help. I’ve never been good at asking for help or admitting when I need it but it’s to the point that I’m now struggling. I have severe anxiety, severe depression, ptsd and post natal depression. Lately everything has just creeped up on me and I’m feeling so confused and overwhelmed over it all. Does anyone have any advice to jus start to cope or how to handle all these? I have a daughter and I feel guilty that I have depression like I feel I should be happy all the time. I just need help

Cookie-Monster First Post intro
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Hi there this is my first post, I’m hoping you guys can point me in the right direction for some help please. My 20 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with Quiet BPD, she also has further mental health issues including ADHD. I’d really like so... View more

Hi there this is my first post, I’m hoping you guys can point me in the right direction for some help please. My 20 year old daughter has just been diagnosed with Quiet BPD, she also has further mental health issues including ADHD. I’d really like some help in knowing how best to support her. Thank you