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Sophie_M Meet your community champions!
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Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Be... View more

Hi everyone, We wanted to share with you the way that our wonderful Community Champions are here to support you. You may have noticed that a few of our Forums members are labelled ‘Community Champion’. Community Champions are volunteers within the Beyond Blue Forums who: have the time, skills and empathy to support other members regularly; help to welcome new members; are actively engaged members that help set the tone of our community. Our Community Champions are regular contributors to many conversations across the forums. They are a consistent and friendly voice that have committed to sharing their experience and expertise with this community. They are not health care professionals or clinicians. Like you, they have an experience with a mental health challenge or diagnosis – either for themselves or someone they care for. This forum is for people who understand what it feels like and have a lived and living experience of mental health challenges. Our Community Champions help everyone feel comfortable and confident by demonstrating what excellent peer support is all about. Click here to find out more about how you can become a Community Champion! This incredible team are excited to introduce themselves below, and we are sure you’ll see them around the forums in conversations important to you.

Aaronsis HELP..Am I posting in the right section?
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Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried th... View more

Welcome to those who are considering posting for the very first time, welcome. Thought I would repost part of the words that Chris B posted awhile ago, (2014) as I can hear that people are unsure if they are posting in the right section or worried that they are posting "the wrong thing". 1.A good title makes the difference Just like a headline in a newspaper, when scanning the dozens of threads to click into, it’s only natural that people will choose the ones that resonate with them most. A title that entices the reader, or asks a question, is likely to get a better result than something non-descriptive like “Depression” or “I don't know what to do”. If you think you’re not good at choosing titles, leave it till last. Spend time writing your post, then perhaps choose a sentence from what you’ve written as the title. 2.Join in threads that have already been posted We all have our own unique stories, but part of the reason for joining a forum like this one is because you know that you will have a lot in common with others who are posting. Before starting a new thread, have a look through the current topics being discussed and see if there’s a conversation you can join in with. It can be quite common to have a handful of very similar threads happening at any one time, with members seemingly unaware that there are others right there who are going through the same thing. Talking to other members on their threads is a great way of getting yourself known so that when you post a thread of your own, people may respond quicker because they recognize your name. 3.Choose the most appropriate section for your post Many people browse the forums looking for stories specifically to do with pregnancy and parenting, employment, grief, loss, separation etc. Going straight for the “Depression” section may seem like the easiest option, but this section is often the busiest, so your post is more likely to get lost among the threads. Making good use of the different forum sections not only helps keep the forum relevant, but you’re more likely to find others who are going through the same experiences as you. Also, if you're wanting to discuss issues of trauma, abuse, suicidal thoughts or self-harm, it's really important you post in the designated section to avoid triggering others who may not wish to read about these topics. Mostly..just come and chat, we are here for you. Our amazing wizards in the background will see your message ends up in the right spot. Sarah

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Internally_Sassy I Don't Think I'm Straight (How Can I Tell?)
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Hello everyone! I am questioning my sexuality but all the advice from I have found online, on discovering one's sexuality, has been based on people who have had a crush or have been in a relationship with someone before. I have no experience with eit... View more

Hello everyone! I am questioning my sexuality but all the advice from I have found online, on discovering one's sexuality, has been based on people who have had a crush or have been in a relationship with someone before. I have no experience with either but I have a feeling (not sure if that's quite how to describe it) that I'm not straight. Whenever I think about being with either gender I don't feel a pull towards one gender more than the other. I was thinking I may be bi or pan. Could anyone who can give advice on how I may be able to discover my sexuality, or maybe just share their own stories, I would greatly appreciate it.

Jeanine87 I need help I am depressed and stress
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My father passed away on saturday. He was hit by a car and died on the scene. I have not seen my father for 12 years even though i have been visiting him and he always shuts me out. I have been messaging him nicely on messenger but no reply and he wi... View more

My father passed away on saturday. He was hit by a car and died on the scene. I have not seen my father for 12 years even though i have been visiting him and he always shuts me out. I have been messaging him nicely on messenger but no reply and he will always block me. But he is always in my heart especially after having my own child and husband. The police rang me on the weekends and the coroner rang me and told me they will release the body to me and i can arrange my fathers funeral which i have done and suppose to be tomroow. Today i have found out my brothers only uncle is trying to dispute this and asking his solicitor that he has more rigjt. i could not believe this my uncle has been so nice to me all this years and always kept in touch with me, I am his only child and I have been longing for my father for so long my depression and anxiety is so high that I am not able to sleep and eat. I need help please please I am so lost

Lucy_H Isolated
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Hi, I'm a DV/Homeless worker in a small isolated community. Before moving here, I previously worked in mental health for over a decade and this included the prison system. I was taught from a young age and throughout my working life (especially in me... View more

Hi, I'm a DV/Homeless worker in a small isolated community. Before moving here, I previously worked in mental health for over a decade and this included the prison system. I was taught from a young age and throughout my working life (especially in mental health work) that you do not talk about your own issues, ever. Figured recently that my mental health issues started before I was 10 years old and am nearly 60 yrs now. So I have always found ways to cover up or control my issues until recently. I have a poisonous workplace and dangerous living conditions that has assisted my mental health to deteriorate. I have spoken to the GP when he is in town but am not able to seek psychiatric assistance during working hours, nor in this town for privacy reasons. I have phoned Beyondblue help line and another on occasions and have always spoken to wonderful people, but other than being able to speak to another human being, I don't find it particularly helpful for myself as I know that I need a different level of assistance. I can't leave this town unless I want to make myself homeless and have tried for other jobs. Prospective employers baulk when I say I cannot give recent referees and will need a bit of time to relocate. So am feeling trapped. When this town has internet/phone service, I have become a utube junky trying to find something to escape into, let alone something to smile at. It is not possible to form friendships here as I am very much a minority and not allowed to forget it. The nearest town is around 2 hours away. If you are reading this, thank you for taking the time.

King_A Another noob
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Hey all, I'm a 42 year old dude who's been living with Depression & Anxiety since my teens. This last week I've been dealing with insomnia that's progressively snowballed into a pretty unpleasant episode of the above. The main antagonist for my sleep... View more

Hey all, I'm a 42 year old dude who's been living with Depression & Anxiety since my teens. This last week I've been dealing with insomnia that's progressively snowballed into a pretty unpleasant episode of the above. The main antagonist for my sleep problems is alcohol, specifically wine, I've known this for a long time, and keep telling myself that I'm going to stop drinking as frequently, but of course don't. So I've decided to reach out a little bit, and stop bottling it up (pun intended). Anyway, hello!

Mavis1989 Newly discharged from hospital
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Hi I’m a 31 year old female and (non biological) mother of 1 baby daughter with a female partner of 5 years. I’ve been reading the forums for months now as I battled my worst ever MDD relapse (although they all seem pretty awful when they are happeni... View more

Hi I’m a 31 year old female and (non biological) mother of 1 baby daughter with a female partner of 5 years. I’ve been reading the forums for months now as I battled my worst ever MDD relapse (although they all seem pretty awful when they are happening) I thought it was time to introduce myself. I got discharged from hospital 2 days ago and I’m really struggling now that I’m back in reality while I do feel better than before my 2 week hospital admission, my mood is still low and I feel close to tears a lot of the time. I feel overwhelmed with the mundane tasks of daily life and dread going back to work (as a nurse) and feeling so exposed as everyone knows where I have been for the last 2 weeks and most people know I have been struggling for the last 3 months. Do anyone relate to this? How can I move forward with my life when I don’t feel that much better? Not constantly thinking of suicide at least but that doesn’t mean I feel ok any tips on life after hospital are much appreciated.

kellyd Hi from a newbie!
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Hi, My name is Kelly and I'm new to the Blue Voices group and the forums. I'm not sure about the best way to introduce myself here, so I hope I'm posting in the right place! At the end of last year, I resigned from a fairly senior corporate career to... View more

Hi, My name is Kelly and I'm new to the Blue Voices group and the forums. I'm not sure about the best way to introduce myself here, so I hope I'm posting in the right place! At the end of last year, I resigned from a fairly senior corporate career to study counselling and social work and finally pursue something I've thought about for a long time. I have lived with anxiety and fairly complex PTSD for over 10 years now and I hope the empathy I've gained over time and my genuine hope to help people learn long-term life skills to help themselves will help me be successful in my new chosen path. I'm here as a part of these forums to be invovled in discussions, volunteer for opportunities where possible and provide support. Kelly

Lolaa Newbie
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Hi, My name is Lolaa I have a diagnosis of bipolar 2 and I am on a real downer atm. Its been a full on few weeks and I guess I am wanting to connect with people that get it. So sick of people not understanding my mental illness.I look forward to chat... View more

Hi, My name is Lolaa I have a diagnosis of bipolar 2 and I am on a real downer atm. Its been a full on few weeks and I guess I am wanting to connect with people that get it. So sick of people not understanding my mental illness.I look forward to chatting

Ray612 Helping my partner with his Bi-Polar Disorder
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Hi New to this and a little nervous. My partner has diagnosed bi polar, anxiety and OCD. He had a pretty severe mood episode over the last few days and it is the first he has had while we have been together. I am doing my best not to blame myself, or... View more

Hi New to this and a little nervous. My partner has diagnosed bi polar, anxiety and OCD. He had a pretty severe mood episode over the last few days and it is the first he has had while we have been together. I am doing my best not to blame myself, or take it personally but it is hard. I know that his Dr is doing a new assessment as this episode was particularly bad (he was having suicidal thoughts). I just wonder what other partners of people with mental health issues do to help with feelings of helplessness or blame and how best I can support him through this. Thanks R

Sophie_M Monthly Forums Update: Reflecting back on March
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Hi Everyone, Thank you for continuing the conversation within the Online Forums. We acknowledge that March may have brought several challenges, changes, and hardships to many and understand that reaching out on the forums may be the first step for pe... View more

Hi Everyone, Thank you for continuing the conversation within the Online Forums. We acknowledge that March may have brought several challenges, changes, and hardships to many and understand that reaching out on the forums may be the first step for people wishing to seek help, recover, and stay well. It’s important to remember that you do not need to be in crisis to reach out for support. In addition to writing on the forums or accessing the Beyond Blue Support Service you may also find the following support options to be helpful: Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service (CMWSS) – The CMWSS is available 24/7 and is operated by trained counsellors to assist with any concerns about your wellbeing in relation to COVID-19. This service is offered by phone at 1800 512 348 and via online chat: https://cmwssonline.beyondblue.org.au/#/chat/start NewAccess is a free and confidential mental health coaching program for anyone feeling stressed or overwhelmed about everyday life issues, such as work, study, relationships, health or loneliness. This program support Australians from 12 years old and is available in parts of ACT, NSW, QLD, and VIC. To see if New Access is available in your area, visit our webpage here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support/newaccess/where-are-your-access-coaches-located Community Voices: What are people talking about? Challenges at uni Lately I just have been feeling very overwhelmed and stressed with uni. I feel like I am just so behind and that I can't catch up on work. Assignments are also piling up so much that I don't even want to look at them. When I do I feel like I am going to have a panic attack. I have got extensions on some but honestly, I don't feel much better. – AUSLOVESLONDONGAL (Read more here) I moved states to attend uni to focus on my dream goal of doing art as a living. I moved into a sharehouse/boarding house almost and we live our own lives with little interaction. I sleep through the days, skipping uni classes and have racked up a heavy amount of work to catch up on. I've missed one deadline - my first assignment. I don't know what to do. I don't have any motivation to do anything - Toughavocado33 (Read more here) I’m current at uni and I just feel like everyone is so much far ahead than me and I just don’t think I have a purpose anymore I’m always ghe joke and always tend to fall behind I don’t know how to make it stop. I just want to leave everything and be by myself nothing makes me happy anymore and coming home is like a chore - Liz22063 (Read more here) Depression and loneliness For such a long time, I've had insufferable feelings of loneliness to the point where I feel depressed. I'm hesitant to use the word without a formal diagnosis, but my feelings and thoughts are very much in line with what a depressed individual would have. – Leyland (Read more here) Currently 6 weeks pregnant, through ivf and sperm donor, but now it's starting to hit me how alone I am. After a visit to the hospital due to cramps and bleeding, I messaged my best friend who said she'd be there for me, then fell asleep. I don't have any other friends, my family don't know I'm pregnant because theyve always told me I'd be a bad mother and shouldn't be a parent. I have noone on my life. Noone to share things with. – Starletbunny (Read more here) I recently spent 3 weeks in treatment for depression, anxiety and disordered eating and am now back home and am 'in recovery'. I have had a few relapses since being home (mostly around eating/food) and am generally finding recovery pretty hard. Every day is a struggle and while there are moments of joy, most days I feel sad and lonely. – girlonsafari (Read more here) Strategies for staying well Looking for help and ideas on how to get the best out of mindfulness and meditation. My pycologist gave me some mindfulness apps with exercises to help with my stress but I cannot get the hang of them and breathe in all the wrong places. Same with meditation I went along to a couple of groups followed the instructions but just could not get the hang of it. Is there any special techniques that people would like to share. – contrarymary (Read more here) Do you have a happy place? A place where you can exhale, and feel okay, if just for a moment? Is it your backyard, or a shed you work in? Is it at the gym? Do u breathe a sigh of relief when you close the door to your therapists office, knowing you can talk about ur life without inhibition? - Sleepy21 (Read more here) As sufferers we must find ways to make life for us and our family and friends more joyful and to do that one of those processes is to lower your stress and anxiety by balancing your workload on projects and avoiding tiredness by getting lots of sleep. - white knight (Read more here) Valued Contributor Award Our Valued Contributor for the month of March is Matchy69! Matchy69 has been nominated for always approaching others in a welcoming and nonjudgmental manner. Matchy69 is also known for regularly checking in on others on the forums, ensuring community members feel comfortable, safe, and valued. Thank you Matchy69! To read more about what a Valued Contributor is and how you can nominate a fellow community member, please refer to our thread Nominate a Valued Contributor here: https://www.beyondblue.org.au/get-support New/Updated BB Resources The 'COVID- normal' section of the Beyond Blue Coronavirus Mental Wellbeing Support Service has recently added the following new content: Managing anxiety about having the COVID-19 vaccine Adjusting to work in COVID-normal times The following articles have also been updated under the Financial and mental wellbeing section: Ways to promote a positive mindset if you lost your job during the COVID-19 pandemic Looking after yourself through unemployment The link between financial wellbeing and mental health Financial counselling explained (and how it can help) Living with financial stress – Michelle’s story Financial hardship and mental health: messages of support from the community

Josasem Helpless and New
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Hi Everyone, Im new to this forum. Im going through a major change in life. And I can’t seem to shake the feeling of hopelessness.

Hi Everyone, Im new to this forum. Im going through a major change in life. And I can’t seem to shake the feeling of hopelessness.