How do I know if my husband has BPD?
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I suspected my husband had BPD two years ago when i saw a drastic change in his behavior and he suddenly asked for a seperation. I felt like it was out of spite for "abandoning him". I felt that there was something else going on due to his deteriorat... View more
I suspected my husband had BPD two years ago when i saw a drastic change in his behavior and he suddenly asked for a seperation. I felt like it was out of spite for "abandoning him". I felt that there was something else going on due to his deteriorating mental health and because it was so impulsive. He was on medication for 20 years with an anti convulsant or mood stabilizer. Problem is a neurologist had prescribed this drug (not a pshychiatrist) and gave him the green light to come off it. But maybe it helped him! Even if it was for a different diagnosis. He had withrawls for 3 months crying feeling sad, not eating, not sleeping well. Then Covid hit in and his anxiety was through the roof. He had nerve pain in his arms at night which kept him awake all night not knowing why. Turns out the meds were masking pain. But the sleep issues continued horribly for 12 mths. Natural meds didn't help. I suggested sleeping tablets but he refused to listen, see therapist but he got offended. With covid, and increased responsibilities at home, lack of sleep, pressures with work, social isolation, he struggled to cope and Burnt out. He said he felt like he was going to die. This had an impact on our marriage but he believes our marriage was the problem. I think it was the other way around. His poor mental health created more conflict. He says he felt abandoned and unloved because I'd watch netflix or when he chose to sleep in the spare bed and felt alone when he woke up through the night. But he chose to sleep there! He's naturally an anxious and paranoid person and has a short temper. Now i think he has PTSD too. He cant handle stress and I have been walking on eggshells always doing something wrong. Meanwhile he idolises his parents and worships the ground they walk on. It seems like all he wants to do is be around them and just spend all day with them. I just feel that deep down there is an underlying issue with his mental health. How will I ever know? How will he ever know? He's finally seeing a Psychologist but I think the focus is on the seperation. I doubt that he explained the above as he doesn't acknowledge his health issues. He really needs to see a Psychiatrist.
