struggling with special needs children
I have a chart for my son's toileting and one for brushing his teeth that I Mark off and will give him a reward.My son now does dress himself in the morning and it the first thing he does in the morning though half the time he puts his clothes on back to front.
My daughter keeps talking about getting a job and moving out of home at the end of the year.I am not sure how she is going to achieve this with her anxiety and selective mutism.I can't even get her to go to the shop for me.I really need to work on her confidence It is really hard when I don't have any my self.
Hope you're feeling a bit better and have gotten a chance to rest.
Wow thats amazing that your d wants to move out of home and get a job. Maybe that will be the turning point for her. I know I was pretty amazed when my d's work experience at a cafe turned her from a surly-won't answer- the phone teenager into a chatty "Hi, how can I help you" waitress....! I could not believe it! I'm sure it's totally different with your d and with her needs but hey, kids are amazing creatures. I think one of the best things we can do for them is be honest ( re your qu from your son lol) and believe in them. They are not us, mine have proved that time and time again. And we are not our parents! Thank God!
BTW with your son, simple is probably best lol. whatever is true and you are comfortable with. I'm sure our kids say the most revealing things at school- our teachers have hinted at it. Teachers learn to take it with a grain of salt. It's all through the child's perspective!
Feel free to ignore any and all of what I say, and trust yourself.