Hi, a lot of the responses I see on this thread seem to be from men. No offence, but what do men know about women? Or how they feel? You say you want to help her, so the first thing to do is listen to her, not to people who have no clue about what her needs or feelings may be. We all know that saying that when a woman says something is fine, it is most definitely not. She is probably not communicating with you, saying hello or goodbye, because you have deeply saddened her, and this is her way of demonstrating this to, and its extent, to you, not because she is mean or nasty. Another thing to think about is why is she a control freak; could it possibly be that if she doesn't do the things that need to be done, then nobody will? Do you honestly think it is nice for her to come downstairs one saturday morning, all smiley and happy that it is the weekend and she can relax for a change, only to find the kitchen etc a gigantic mess, after she spent the evening before cleaning it up? Men often don't see the mess they have created, but how can she possibly relax if she has to do this all again, however small a task it may be? Of course she is going to yell in circumstances like the above. Wouldn't you? Try to step into her shoes, for a change, and imagine what it is like to be her and how it makes you feel when you experience the same things she does.
