Husband anxious and depressed - wants our kids out of home
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Im sorry this is happening to your family it must be difficult….
It’s sad that your husband is treating your son in the way he is….. maybe your husband needs to become aware of his behaviour and how it affects the rest of his family…… you could urge your husband to see his gp so he discuss how he’s feeling they could do a mental health plan together this will enable him to see a psychologist…
Thats great that your son is receiving counselling.
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Hi he was the recipient. A workplace injury due to the work he does (overuse injury). It has been 3 weeks since he has gone to work. He has had medical procedures hence with Covid testing prior etc has had sick leave.
He has been saying he isn't going back. He has reduced his emotional attacks on two of our children. He has a habit of working out of work and not going back when things get though. Last time he did this he was out of work for 10 years trying his own business that never got off the ground. Now he's saying he wants to retire (he is 50) but still wants the expensive sport he has. I'm getting quite anxious myself. He isn't helping our at home with cleaning etc, watches TV, sometimes cooks, makes grandeous plans, goes on Facebook. Meanwhile house is a mess and we are still building so it's cold and water coming in. What do I do?
Glad to hear the kids are not the brunt of frustrations as much, but I can't help think that this behaviour is 'mid life crisis' - wanting to chuck it all and have some fun.
Perhaps some CBT from a psychologist could turn things around for work/life balance, or even some marriage counselling could help address the harm being caused to your family and help find direction again.
While simply finding another job may only defer the same response, it may be useful to capitalise on his interests to start a whole new career - ie, a keen golfer could consider coaching, open a supplies store, or just become a greens keeper. The right choice can actually be an engaging form of retirement.
The house construction process is a job in itself - has this stalled to further drag the mood down? Small consolation, the weather is improving but it is really hard functioning during renovations at the best of times.
Telling you what to do is beyond my scope, but I hope these suggestions are of some value and can help lead you to a workable solution.