I am normally a very private person but i don't know what to do or how to help.
The backstory - Just over a year ago my beautiful wife and I were expecting our second child, i was outside building a playground with a friend when he received a call from my wife just upstairs in the house, he turned to me and said she doesn't sound good. Running into the house i found her laying on the ground in my daughters room face down repeating over and over again "somethings not right", i called the ambulance and they talked me through how to help and what to do as she got progressively worst and worst. By the time the paramedics arrived she was not longer able speak in real words, when they took over they could not find a pulse but she was still moving and gagging, when the second and third group of paramedics arrived they carried her out onto a gurney. At that point all she could muster is a hand squeeze as i said "I love you", they loaded her into the ambulance and put the lights on, i got loaded into the second ambulance, just as we were about to go her ambulance turned their lights off. She had gone into cardiac arrest, the driver of my ambulance went to help and i went completely catatonic. My driver approached me and explained what had happened and she had been revived but they were still working on her, so her lights went back on and they headed to hospital, we followed. Once at the hospital they did her C-section in 30 seconds, our son at 32 weeks was born but not breathing, i don't know how long it took before the news was coming through but she crashed and was revived two more times. They managed to revive my son but he was unresponsive, it was explained that he had to be sent to a different hospital with a NICU but he would most likely not make the trip. My son made the trip and my wife was still critical but out of surgery, She had a splenic aneurysm and her spleen had to be removed, she needed 14 units of blood. Over the coming hours i was told she would be suffering a degree of brain damage, they woke her (induced coma) the next morning and although unable to speak, she was able to write questions on paper, mentally she was OK. The next 15 days were hell as my son remained unresponsive and my wife learn to walk again, my son was brought to my wife so they could meet, my son was never going to recover and we had to take him off of the ventilator 6 days later.
Health anxiety is understandable but how do i help?
